Does your spouse take any initiative to help solve misc. problems within the household?

Or does your spouse not do a #@!#ing thing about it?! why do you think this is? And how many years have you been married? thanks for your helpDoes your spouse take any initiative to help solve misc. problems within the household?
yes he does......but sad to say.....he has an incurable case of domestic blindness when it comes to housework : )Does your spouse take any initiative to help solve misc. problems within the household?
My wife used to sit on her dead *** and make me take care of the kids, do the dishes, do the laundry, repair things around the house and make financial decisions. She wasn't always as bad as she was during the last year of our marriage. But, at the end she was awful.





She asked me for a divorce after 24 years. I was devastated at first. But, now I have found the woman of my dreams. We share the household responsibilities and do things as a team (except when I do things like surprise her with breakfast in bed). Cooking dinner and cleaning up the dishes is so much faster when two people are working together. We are engaged and, hopefully, will be married in a year. We are not perfect human beings. But, we actually work together so well. it is refreshing.
My husband and I have been married 12+ years. We participate equally in our marriage, and in the upkeep of our household. I'm retired and have severe mobility problems ... the garden is 'mine' but he's outside now watering it to be sure the plants stay healthy and fresh. We do the grocery shopping together, we shop for everything else together from bird and squirrel food to clothes. We do the laundry together, we clean together ... and we are getting ready to go out to breakfast and see a movie (one I really want to see, he's not particularly interested but there's nothing we both want to see) together. We aren't simply husband and wife ... we are also best friends, so sometimes we do things we don't particularly like to do, simply to be with each other ... which makes everything fun.
We've been married a year and a half. I usually handle things at the house, which suits both of us. He works soooo much, so if something needs to be done, I make it happen. If anything needs to be jointly decided, I usually do the research, give him a few options (all of which I like) and we pick from those options. He's happy because it's all laid out for him, I'm happy because I like doing that sort of stuff, and no matter what we choose, it's something I want. Because if his business, he knows alot of trades people, so if we need an electrician, etc, I just put him on the case, and he takes care of that.
If from the beginning you always said ';don't worry I'll take care of it'; then you opened that whole door up yourself. What you must do now is change that. Sit down with your spouse and tell them that you thought you could handle it alone but its getting too much to handle so you need help. Use a calm and understanding tone rather than the accusing or argumentative tone. It helps solve issues if you don't argue or tick away at all the things that you do and the things he doesn't do. The out come will always be the same. Good luck
You know...a man who doesn't help his wife when she requests it...isn't a man.





But on the same token, I do not understand why women think men ever were eager to take care of the homestead.





Look how we live as bachelors. Why were you ever under the impression that we are eager to be domestic engineers?





Now all men should work for a living and provide an income for their families. Most men, real men, understand and accept this. Most of us excel at this. We're built for it, designed for it, and encouraged all our lives to do it. We get very depressed if we can't do it.





But we don't get depressed about a messy house. It's not a bother to us.





It's a bother to you...the women-folk.





So why is it that women who are bothered in this way, choose to assume half of our duty (provision for the family) while demanding that we accept half of their duty (regulation of the home)?





Doesn't this seem a little silly to everyone? If a dirty house is going to distress a woman, shouldn't she apply her efforts there? And if being unemployed bothers a man, shouldn't he be encouraged to achieve in that area?





The idea that we MUST make all women bread-earners and all men home-makers for the sake of equality is stupid, arrogant, pointless, and foolish.





And this is the result...men who stubbornly refuse to clean and women who stubbornly refuse to ';do his job';. Conflict, conflict, conflict.





Good Luck!
Been married 2 years - men think that dishes and cooking, which needs to be done everyday is not their responsibility. My husband takes care of the lawn and fun things, while I cook, clean, do laundry and all the other bs. I dont know why that is...I wish I did, because i would love to change it myself.
My husband does nothing but make excuse as to why he is incapable of doing it. from taking out the trash and cleaning the dishes to mowing the lawn and fixing the toilet. and lately its been more of why he can't find work but goes fishing instead....


we've been married 7 years.
married 3yrs. and we solve everything together or separately,we're adults,we think on our own and handle issues that come along and include each other in our decisions,some things need both of our attention,some do not,judgmentt call.
Yes all the time She solves them her way only. SWEET MILDRED IS IN THE HOUSE !AND WANTS YOU TO CRAWL IN THE PLAYPEN WITH ME FOR SOME FUN!
Never been married and never will be, but he sounds like an *** Hole. Lose him. Too bad where your married its easier said then done.
Please provide more details please. Clearly you are upset about something.
EX was like that - partly why he's the ex. Left after almost 30 years.
I don't think he gives a **** he is too busy with his own f'n life