Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?

I'm not in this situation, I've just known friends who have.Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?
when one builds the foundation of their marriage based on feelings or circumstances and not on a commitment no matter what, it will always end like this. it is selfish, and that person thinks they are running away from a bad thing, but in reality the problem lies within themselves and not with the spouse. in a few years they will fall out of love again, and again over and over again, because they can never take any of the blame or deal with any of the problems because that requires work, and having to look within also, and some people are just not willing to do that, so they fall out of love right into the arms of someone new who doesn't know them yet, who they have no problems with at first.Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?
What do you think? Should vows be taken seriously or not?


No one falls out of love.


It is when people start putting their own needs and wants first and stop caring for the other half, that is when they feel that they have fallen out of love.


Best thing for you to do here is to be a good friend and not offer advice unless asked.
Yes, he/she will definitely breaks the partner's heart. :-(
You don't fall out of love. Your infatuation fades. It's selfish to get married for infatuation.
You don't ';fall out of love.'; Your friend was never in love to begin with. Yes, it is not only selfish, it is going against God. Your friend made a commitment and should stick with it. Maybe your friend should find a way to ';fall back in love.';
funny you ask, im going through it as we speak. but my story involves alot of drama behind the scenes, not falling out of love for no reason.
Are you to ashamed to admit that you have done this to your spouse. Yes it's selfish and mean and unforgivable if you or anyone you know has ever done this horrible thing as to cheat on the one person who he or she made a promise to love, cherish and forsaken all others. I never could understand how someone can be so cold and hurtful towards the one person whose only crime was to trust and believe in you. That's one person i wouldn't want to be around or have as a friend. If he or she can do that to the one who loves him what do you think he or she would do if you turned your back on him. Anyone who cheats is not only selfish but is a very hateful person. Anyone who gives me a thumbs down is nothing but a cheater themselves and all cheaters can go start to hell because that's where you belong.
It is not selfish if you tell them. Cheating on them is. They deserve to be happy too and if you want to be somewhere else you need to go but they also should have the same opportunity to make themselves happy.
The second you say ';I DO'; the relationship is over. It takes people different lengths of time to realize it. What you should do is once you are in love and happy don't change it and get married. Marriage destroys your love.
Mybe not because your only putting in right way how you fell to him/ her either. Its better to make a early decission than to keep hold the situation.