Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?

and do you think it was long enough.How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?
I married him just over a year after I met him. I think it was long enough. My husband didn't have any secrets or insecurities that I didn't know about within the first month (he has teenaged kids).





It's hard to say, you know. You could know someone 3 weeks and marry them and the marriage is successful. You could also know someone 5 years, get married and the marriage is unsuccessful. I think a major issue is how much you ignore things that are red flags. For instance, my sister ignored the red flags before her first marriage (always late, sprendthrift with her money, but tightfisted with his, lazy, very argumentative, had to always be right). I mean these were obvious flags to just about anybody that this guy was not husband material, but she chose to ignore it and the marriage ended. They married after 3 years and divorced in less than 7.How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?
My husband and i dated for 2 yrs before we got married and yes it was long enough.





We met and started dating in high school in 1985 when i was 16 and he was 17 and got married 2 yrs later when i was 18 and he was 19 and have been happily married almost 22 yrs with 3 great kids..We have a son who is 20 and we have 2 daughters..1 is 18 and the other is almost 17.
I dated him for 1 1/2 years. At that time I didn't believe in living with someone before getting married. That turned out to be a mistake. If I had lived with him first, then I would have never married him.





You think after you date someone for that long and you see them every day that you know them pretty well, but you never really know someone until you live with them.





I am now a firm believer that when you feel you are ready to marry this person, you should make an agreement to live with each other for one year. At the end of that year, if you feel you are compatible, then you get married. If not then one of you move out and you go your separate ways. Plus you make sure you don't get pregnant during the trial period.





I didn't live with my husband first. We got married after dating for 1 1/2 years and I got pregnant right away. I found my husband to be a total jerk to live with and I wasted the next 14 years of my life trying to make a bad marriage from the very beginning work.





I will never make that mistake again.
A little over 3 months.





I think it was it was long enough for us to know each other's values, goals, dreams, and know we are in love with each other. :) (You should have seen our phone bills!) We both saw each other when we were sick and met our families.





Good luck!
We were friends for about a year, dated about 9 months and then married, totally worth it! we have 2 girls and i wonderful life! :)
It will be over three years when we get married. Yes, I think that is long enough because we have also been living together for about two.
My lady and I met on the first day of high school. We married the day after graduation 36 years ago. Life is good. I too pray that your soldier stays safe.
Ten months. Yes.
5 years. Just wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. It was definitely long enough.
For 5 years and yes it was long enough I knew almost more about him than I knew about myself.
4 months total. For us, it was long enough. Still happily married after 9 years.
5 years and yes I think it was long enough.
5 months. We've been married 22 years, so I guess it was long enough for us.
8 months.
Probably around the range of 3-5 years? I have to see what it's like to live with them first, :P
6 years
Over a year and yes.
A year and yes
22 years ..we had an affair since the age of 2
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  • If u file injured spouse and your spouse only worked but u are in community property state.?

    so i'm still eligible to file injured spouse w/o income but it's really my spouse tax return and we have seperate bank accounts how can i get my injured spouse portion direct deposited into my own account i didn't opt for it b/c he's not getting refund my name isn't on his account so how will check be issued?could i have put account info on return but his name is not on my account either but we did file jointlyIf u file injured spouse and your spouse only worked but u are in community property state.?
    Last I heard (and I'm in TX, a community property state), Injured spouse isn't going to help you get a refund AT ALL. All it does, is absolve you of any responsibility to pay HIS business taxes.





    YOU can't get a refund, if you didn't work - there's nothing to refund. If you are married filing jointly, that's where the injured spouse bit comes in.





    You can't use it to ';attach'; part of his income tax return.





    Income tax return checks get issued in the name of the filer. So if you filed married - joint - both names will be on the check, it can't be deposited/cashed without both signatures.

    How many indian couple swap their spouse?

    same as american couples. How many indian couple swap their spouse?
    isn't it usually the men who go looking for other women to enjoy... cos they don't want to be in an arranged marriage...

    What are some of the signs of someone who is cheating on their spouse?

    They become distant, sometimes take out thier frustration on you, or other more obvious signs like staying gone for a long time like a weekend, buying his own under wear, and new socks. if a man is married than his wife usually buys this but if he is chesting then he'll do it himself. Or sometimes you just know b/c he is your partner and you love him that much.What are some of the signs of someone who is cheating on their spouse?
    watch for a change of habits. they usually are very quiet.What are some of the signs of someone who is cheating on their spouse?
    A couple of things could be happening. They stay out later than normal or they leave a lot. Another thing is the sex could be getting less and less. Or sometimes they want to do different things sexually all the time. There are alot of things just pay attention. If your spouse is cheating they will get caught. It will come out some how, whether it's 6 months from now or a year they will get caught.
    1. Change in behavior (they seem ';distant'; from you, are less affectionate, seem to lose interest in you sexually, ect...)


    2. Unexplained charges on credit card statements, or bank statements from a debit card.


    2. Unknown consistent numbers (meaning you don't know who's number that is) on cell phone statements.


    3. Unexplained disappearances (meaning ';their working late at the office,'; you call and he/she has left hours ago. Or if he/she is hesitant to tell you where they have been).


    4. When your partner comes home, they immediately take a shower.


    5. Usually, they are constantly accusing YOU of cheating. This is done out of guilt from their own cheating.





    #1 and 5 are usually the biggest signs, and I'm sure there's probably more that I didn't think of.


    Best of luck to you!
    Are they acting differently? Have their routines changed? Are they questioning everything you do? Are they asking you why you took so long running errands? Is he/she not answering the cell phone when you call when they used to answer it on their way home from work? From personal experience, when they start accusing you of cheating that usually means they are cheating. And if you are the first to ask does he/she become very defensive?
    Telltale signs:





    1. Coming home late,leaving early or finding an excuse to run somewhere...





    2. Change in appearance, he--showers more, dresses better%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;she--showers more, wears more makeup then usual and sometimes declines on sex, and gets new lingerie





    3.Making excuses





    4.Accusing...the guilty conscience gets the better of them and they actually start accusing you!





    5.The Final..last but not least......





    They flatly REFUSE sex from their spouse!
    when you find used condoms all over the house.
    Coming late from work, leaving early, change of mood with you , sex once a month not going out with you anywere, more problems at home for anything that might be some signs also mysterious phone calls either home or to his/her cell.
    that won't give you sex anymore or never home as much,seems more distance from you.
    when u start working a lot of overtime and been late at home but the paycheck doesnt reflect it
    Look for a change in schedule. Leaving earlier, coming home later.
    Personality changes. Either they became extremely nice and gentle because they are a bit guilty or bad attitude and gets pissed at everything you do...
    1. going out unexplainabley


    2. being secretive, and not telling you their plans


    3. having the name of the opposite sex in their phone, a name that they have never talked about before to you


    5. talking to someone online, and as soon as you come into the room they close out the program


    6. saying they are going to the store to get groceries, or stuff like that, but you don't need the stuff they are talking about
    signs if your spouse is cheating on you loss of interest in what you do, no longer wants to be around when you are home, only wants to make love to you when he or she wants to. The spouse might be insecure and overprotective about the things you do.
    they don't what to stop ******* you. the get horny. they whant to get you tied. so they can find an excuse.

    If you pass away is your spouse responsible for your car loan if your not on the contract?

    Car loan was purchased under fathers name. He passes away. Does the loan become the responsibilty of the Wife?


    even if she is not on the loan to begin with?If you pass away is your spouse responsible for your car loan if your not on the contract?
    If she didn't sign it then she doesn't have to pay for it. Be warned though they will harass her for the money, bully her, and try to convince her that 'it's her legal obligation to pay' and 'it'll affect her credit'. It won't.





    Most states have updated their laws since the 80's, and don't require any family to pay the debt of a deceased member if he's the only one who signed the contract.If you pass away is your spouse responsible for your car loan if your not on the contract?
    when my husband passed away he had a truck loan that he got before we were even married. the bank it was financed with tried to tell me i had to pay for it. i told them i didn't and they better check with their lawyers. told them i would be happy to turn the truck over to them but i was NOT legally responsible. it took awhile but they finally called me back and told me i was right and to bring them the truck which i did. they turned around and sold it for what they could and wrote off the difference. i have NEVER had it show up on my credit or have any negative effects.
    I don't beleive so. It's who ever signs it. Unless you are the co- signer. Though each contract is different.
    No. Only the person(s) listed on the loan will be responsible for the payment. Once the owner passes away, the family in general will be responsible to either sell it to pay off the loan, or, continue paying the loan and keep the car if all possesions were requested to be kept in the family by the will. the family will have the choice on wether or not dispose of the car, or keep. but the loan will need to be paid either way.
    The spouse would likely have to pay the loan. The personal representative of the estate will have to take care of any outstanding debts left by the deceased.
    Yes normally. All debts pass on to the living spouse. Some states it can pass on to the children.
    Debts don't pass onto the family. But items which have debt can. So unless she wants to lose the car she has to take over payments.

    Survey: What is the most entertaining thing you can do for your partner/spouse?

    How about giving her a massage. She might be stressed out. And treat her afterwards to a home cooked roast without burning the house down. Or have the roast first and then give her a massage. The choice is yours. pmsl Survey: What is the most entertaining thing you can do for your partner/spouse?
    Have ';funny sex';.





    No, seriously. Funny sex.





    If you're both in a happy mood and sex dissolves into giggle fits, just keep the laughing going until neither of you can breathe. For my fiance and me, it's easily a more significant bonding activity than cuddling or the standard boom-boom-finish. Survey: What is the most entertaining thing you can do for your partner/spouse?
    ha ha ha, will let you use your imagination there, and liz, you aint got a cat in hells chance of that happening, pmsl
    romantic dinner.
    Just be myself : )
    Make them laugh if I had one.
    Humour but I don't try to hard.
    give them good sex

    Why do most people think that its perfectly ok to cheat on their spouse?

    This has been, and continues to be wildly popular in this country and really the entire world, so what makes it ok for the people that do it??Why do most people think that its perfectly ok to cheat on their spouse?
    I don't think it's OK and in four years of marriage never have and plan to keep it that way. I think most people in their heart know it's wrong. They just create rationalizations to suppress there true feelings and follow their biological urges.Why do most people think that its perfectly ok to cheat on their spouse?
    First of all, the decline of morality in general heavily contributes to the increase in infidelity in this country and the world. However I don't believe that people have ceased to understand right from wrong altogether, and that is why they try to cover over their indescretions, thus implying that most people do not believe that it is okay to cheat on his or her spouse.
    ignorance


    immaturity


    morals
    Good question. I don't know. But I do know this....





    If I ever catch my husband cheating, he better run. I won't cheat on him and I expect the same from him.
    I think that if both people are being honest with each other, they can do whatever they want. However, when deception is introduced into the relationship, it's over.





    I personally don't think marriage is something I would want, but I always wonder why a person would get married to someone if they are not ready to be completely honest with each other. Most people expect faithfulness, so why would a person get married if they still wanted to mess around with other partners behind their spouses' backs?





    I don't know why people cheat on their marriage. I am still trying to figure out why people get married in the first place.
    I think the reason it's so ';wildly popular'; is because it's human nature. Different societies set different moral codes by which its citizens live. In our culture, we have deemed marriage as a monogamous relationship, however there are many people who cant deny their carnal urges. It's nature vs nurture. Our nature is to procreate the human race, and our nurture is to live within the confines of socially excepted norms.


    Whether it's right or wrong, I can't be the judge of that.
    nothing makes it okay except the person who is rationalizing about why he or she should do it, rather than working it out or getting out of it. Promises are made to be kept, and at the very least, worked on. We likve in an instant society needing instant gratification, faster and faster computers, etc., and we throw away relationships the minute we aren't as happy as we think we can be.
    I think that most people are selfish people , those who cheat on their spouses, isn't true that when yu marry someone you are suppose to remain loyal to them?
    people dont have belief anymore, nation of atheists all demanding 'proof' before they believe in anything





    no proof of god, no proof of love, - all is money, money,money - show some faith and u will get some love, judge ppl and u wont get anywhere? lol





    if u dont believe someone can convince you they are better for u easier, but you are still unhappy bcos that is not the answer





    we are not also not in a period of 'high culture' anymore, high culture is where you rise above our own animal instincts - at th minute we are revelling in them and destroying our own planet in process
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  • How often do you and your spouse get professional portraits taken?

    I'm not talking about you and the kids because obviously if you have children you are going to get professional pictures taken more often......I'm talking about husband and wife with no children- how often do you (or did you before you had kids) get your pics taken at a studio?How often do you and your spouse get professional portraits taken?
    I've never had me and my hubby's pic's taken professionally. We have been together for 11 years. He was in a couple of my senior pictures when I graduated from High School but that is it. Pretty pathetic, huh?How often do you and your spouse get professional portraits taken?
    My wife and i only have had our pictures taken professionally once that was when we got engaged and it was the picture that ran in the paper annoucing our wedding other than that we hired professional photographers for our wedding ....we were thinking of doing the chirstmas card thing with our daughter this year ...
    We had the engagement portrait, wedding, 1 year anniversary, then went to every 5 years. We do have kids and have had family ones taken but just of us 5 years seems often enough.
    This marriage, we've never had it done...what's the point? But if it's like a 25 year anniversary or somekind of milestone like that, why not? But my first marriage, in my 20's, we had 2 done. I guess it depends on the occasion and where the two of you are in your life. I'm almost 40 and I just don't see the point in doing a professional photo every few years...candids are much more meaningful and most often have memories attached to them. I'd rather have a snapshot of me and my husband taken at a park when we had one of the best days yet in our marriage sitting in a frame on my desk than a professional one of us where I probably could care less what the date or occasion was. But that's just me...
    Never i think its bad luck
    never actually....it's on the to-do-list
    None actually !!! Kinda sad !!! I need to get some !! Some of the entire family too !! One of those things I've procrastinated on too long.
    we do it every two years...

    How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?

    and do you think it was long enough.How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?
    I married him just over a year after I met him. I think it was long enough. My husband didn't have any secrets or insecurities that I didn't know about within the first month (he has teenaged kids).





    It's hard to say, you know. You could know someone 3 weeks and marry them and the marriage is successful. You could also know someone 5 years, get married and the marriage is unsuccessful. I think a major issue is how much you ignore things that are red flags. For instance, my sister ignored the red flags before her first marriage (always late, sprendthrift with her money, but tightfisted with his, lazy, very argumentative, had to always be right). I mean these were obvious flags to just about anybody that this guy was not husband material, but she chose to ignore it and the marriage ended. They married after 3 years and divorced in less than 7.How long did you date your spouse before you got married...?
    My husband and i dated for 2 yrs before we got married and yes it was long enough.





    We met and started dating in high school in 1985 when i was 16 and he was 17 and got married 2 yrs later when i was 18 and he was 19 and have been happily married almost 22 yrs with 3 great kids..We have a son who is 20 and we have 2 daughters..1 is 18 and the other is almost 17.
    I dated him for 1 1/2 years. At that time I didn't believe in living with someone before getting married. That turned out to be a mistake. If I had lived with him first, then I would have never married him.





    You think after you date someone for that long and you see them every day that you know them pretty well, but you never really know someone until you live with them.





    I am now a firm believer that when you feel you are ready to marry this person, you should make an agreement to live with each other for one year. At the end of that year, if you feel you are compatible, then you get married. If not then one of you move out and you go your separate ways. Plus you make sure you don't get pregnant during the trial period.





    I didn't live with my husband first. We got married after dating for 1 1/2 years and I got pregnant right away. I found my husband to be a total jerk to live with and I wasted the next 14 years of my life trying to make a bad marriage from the very beginning work.





    I will never make that mistake again.
    A little over 3 months.





    I think it was it was long enough for us to know each other's values, goals, dreams, and know we are in love with each other. :) (You should have seen our phone bills!) We both saw each other when we were sick and met our families.





    Good luck!
    We were friends for about a year, dated about 9 months and then married, totally worth it! we have 2 girls and i wonderful life! :)
    It will be over three years when we get married. Yes, I think that is long enough because we have also been living together for about two.
    My lady and I met on the first day of high school. We married the day after graduation 36 years ago. Life is good. I too pray that your soldier stays safe.
    Ten months. Yes.
    5 years. Just wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. It was definitely long enough.
    For 5 years and yes it was long enough I knew almost more about him than I knew about myself.
    4 months total. For us, it was long enough. Still happily married after 9 years.
    5 years and yes I think it was long enough.
    5 months. We've been married 22 years, so I guess it was long enough for us.
    8 months.
    Probably around the range of 3-5 years? I have to see what it's like to live with them first, :P
    6 years
    Over a year and yes.
    A year and yes
    22 years ..we had an affair since the age of 2

    If u file injured spouse and your spouse only worked but u are in community property state.?

    so i'm still eligible to file injured spouse w/o income but it's really my spouse tax return and we have seperate bank accounts how can i get my injured spouse portion direct deposited into my own account i didn't opt for it b/c he's not getting refund my name isn't on his account so how will check be issued?could i have put account info on return but his name is not on my account either but we did file jointlyIf u file injured spouse and your spouse only worked but u are in community property state.?
    Last I heard (and I'm in TX, a community property state), Injured spouse isn't going to help you get a refund AT ALL. All it does, is absolve you of any responsibility to pay HIS business taxes.





    YOU can't get a refund, if you didn't work - there's nothing to refund. If you are married filing jointly, that's where the injured spouse bit comes in.





    You can't use it to ';attach'; part of his income tax return.





    Income tax return checks get issued in the name of the filer. So if you filed married - joint - both names will be on the check, it can't be deposited/cashed without both signatures.

    How many indian couple swap their spouse?

    same as american couples. How many indian couple swap their spouse?
    isn't it usually the men who go looking for other women to enjoy... cos they don't want to be in an arranged marriage...

    What is the sweetest thing your spouse has ever done?

    My hubhby is the greatest! He does so many sweet things for me. When I am sick, he takes care of me and the 3 kids. He buys me flowers every week. I am just so lucky to have a great guy that loves me and whom I love.What is the sweetest thing your spouse has ever done?
    Well he always says he loves me,he shows me respect and he always treat me the way I'm suppose to be treated.What is the sweetest thing your spouse has ever done?
    For my Fiance, He treats me a TRUE QUEEN. He does everything that most MEN dont do.. He cooks, clean, shops, take care of my errands when i couldnt do it, picks the best wines, plans on surpirse events, very romantic at times and so forth. He has a very good stable job. Always smile and laugh with wonderful heart and thoughts. Im so LUCKY and am looking forward to be HIS WIFE very soon. HE does many things that i couldnt say NO to him for sex or else. Hes the most amazing guy for me. I thanked GOD so many times for him in my life.
    He asked me to marry him in high school, in front of everyone in the cafeteria. Got down on one knee and everything!

    If something makes you and your spouse argue do you try to avoid whatever it is that makes you argue?

    i guess but sometimes thats really hard to do If something makes you and your spouse argue do you try to avoid whatever it is that makes you argue?
    No I don't. What I do is think about it for a little bit until I can calm down and then talk to him about it very calmly. Then it doesn't develop into an argument. I never need to raise my voice. Even if I have to react immediately, I never react by raising my voice. Probably our biggest thing is when my husband comes home from a bad day at work and is grumpy, so he snaps at everyone. I am very calm on the outside (seething on the inside - does he think my day has been any better?), and calmly tell him if he is going to be snappy at everyone, I would appreciate if he could go to another room. He glares at me, stalks off, but comes back 10 minutes later and apologises. If I yelled at him, it would be on and could ruin the entire evening.If something makes you and your spouse argue do you try to avoid whatever it is that makes you argue?
    No, I do not try to avoid it, because it will only build into a bigger argument. I try to rephrase it and make it more neutral so that we don't argue about it, but work together on it.


    It's easier said than done but after so many years living with a very difficult man, I have become so creative with the male gender! It's almost comical at times! Gotta love our men though! They truly are amazing individuals!





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  • How terrible do you consider a spouse having sex with someone else while in the divorce process?

    its wrong morally. i think its almost as bad.How terrible do you consider a spouse having sex with someone else while in the divorce process?
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    How terrible do you consider a spouse having sex with someone else while in the divorce process?
    the relationship is over, altho not legally yet.... so its not terrible cuz both are over each other. also in response to ';37'; whoever that user is, well its more of a question: how in heck do they value the relationships if the divorce is takin place? ppl need to READ the question before attempting to reply.
    not terrible..obviously if you're gettin a divorce..the damage is done and you guys are over so move on. It may hurt but you gotta deal with it.
    I think it is awful!
    The divorce process is not really a part of the marriage...it's just the legal wrangling after the marriage is over. If there is sex during this process, it really doesn't matter.
    not terrible at all
    its ok, anyway the spouse is on its divorce process
    It is totally wrong because you are still legally married. It just shows his/her true colors, if this person valued this relationship at all they would wait until they were divorced.
    If you're already in the divorce process it's not a big deal, it's just some salt in the wound for the one you're divorcing.
    having sex or making love according to me is got to do with feelings. it does not matter at what stage of relationship is the person. its the feelings that matter. if a person is married on paper but in his/her mind the marraige is over and he/she is in love with someone else and makes love with that person it does not matter coz the feelings for the spouse do not exist in the mind and heart. to make love its important to feel the love and if there is no love, what one does is not important. thats what i feel. Hence if the divorce proceedings are on means that the marraige is long since over and under those circumstances, what ever one might do is not cheating or hurting the spouse coz had the feelings still been there and the marraige was still alive, the divorce proceedings would not have been going on. Once a relatioship is dead, it does not matter what the other person does in his/her life. Atleast this is what i feel.
    By the time divorce proceedings begin, does it really matter?
    cheating. not divorced yet.
    Honestly I don't think it matters. I mean they're getting a divorce aren't they.
    with out getting into moral judgments or what marraige means to different people in this day and age.....I think you shouldn't think about or care....the divorce is in progress.....the sooner you move on the better....I know it still hurts from experience....but wisdom says...the pain will go away....and do something that will lead to a better future and have enough self respect to not allow anybody to have control of your feelings....only you can do that
    that actualy ok i thunk.
    just freaks who are on for that matter which cant be helped

    If i where to get married and sighn into the military can my spouse go where ever i do?

    I have heard that if you get married befor sighning in the military your spouse can live on base with you. is this true??? can you give me more info on this subject??? thanx!If i where to get married and sighn into the military can my spouse go where ever i do?
    in most cases yes.. unless you get a certian tour overseas that is unaccompanied.. but after basic and ait training when you get first duty station your spouse get to go live with you either on post..or you get bah and live off post here is a good site to look at there are links on the left to all sorts of things


    they military will also come pack and move your belongings for you


    http://www.marriedtothearmy.com/army_lif鈥?/a>If i where to get married and sighn into the military can my spouse go where ever i do?
    For the most part, yes.





    However there is never enough base housing for everyone to live on base. There is usually a waiting list so figure you are going to have to live off base for a while. Your spouse may have to work to pay for the added expense of living off base.





    Your spouse can not live with you when you are at a basic or your initial tech school, deployed or when you are given an un-accompanied assignment. IE: Korea.





    Also if your spouse causes problems on base they can be banned from the base. You might get to live on base but they can be banned.
    Yes, with the exception of combat zones and hostile zones. I know it used to be that spouses couldn't go to Korea unless the tour was over 1 year long.....not sure if the rules are the same.





    Not sure of other areas where spouses are not allowed. They can't usually tag along to training unless the training is for a certain amount of time.
    IF YOU WERE TO GET MARRIED AND SIGN INTO THE MILITARY, otherwise known es enlisting, you should make sure that your wife is ready and willing to get a job. Before you take the plunge, I suggest you check out the military pay scales and other information at www.military.com. because you're not going to have much money until you've been in awhile.
    even if you get married after your in the military your new spouse can go with you to the place you are stationed. they can even go to your training school if the school is over 26 weeks long. the can't go to traing shorter than that and can clearly not go with you on deployment.
    If you enlist in the military and are or get married than you are entitled to getting housing on base, if its available-If it is not or there is a waiting list then you get BAH which is a housing allowance to live off post.
    For the most part, yes. But know that there are plenty of occasions where you will be separated from your spouse, for EX: basic, AIT/tech school, other training schools, short duty assignments, deployments.
    your spouse will be able to go to most of your bases. they won't be able to be at your training bases. Also you will be requireed to do short tours that they will not be able to be at your base either

    What would you say if your spouse openly flirts in front of you?

    But then they act like your crazzy or they deny it.


    When i say flirt i mean being alittle to nice. like laughing at a bank tellers joke and keep the conversion going. But they get to where they cannot give you the time of day.


    And your husband finally gets to the point he says your making it up or you dont own me.


    why would a husband do this to his wife? Would he get pleasure in seeing her cry?What would you say if your spouse openly flirts in front of you?
    my dad is like this and my mom really doesnt mind because she knows that at the end of the day, he would want to be with her over any of the women he talked to that day. besides, it gets him things that he needs by buttering it up a bit (such as a better price, whatever). do you really think he will end up cheating on you? if you have told him directly that it bothers you, and he continues to do it in front of you thats just mean. however, it is his nature and personality. unless you are really concerned he is cheating on you, leave it alone and dont act like it bothers you.What would you say if your spouse openly flirts in front of you?
    I'm sorry that his actions make you cry, but what you described is just harmless flirting and almost everyone does it at one time or another. and since most people do, your husband probably doesn't understand why you are getting upset about it. he goes home with you. Is this something you just started noticing? and I'm going to get just a little personal here... Have you changed your birth control recently. I had a WAY BAD episode because of the wrong hormone in a bcp I was taking.
    then YOU need to OPENLY Speak up and say , STOP FLIRTING.................... That and everyone else will get the message LOUD and clear !!





    Dear when two say I do , they are no longer their own , they ARE Each Others................and they should Respect each other , and never doi anything that would even suggest anything outside their relationship.........flirting , flaunting or anything else for that matter !!
    Sounds like he has little regards for his wife's feeling. His behaving that way is probably further inducing any insecurities. Not cool!


    But honestly, for me, if my hubbie did that I would totally do the same thing! But ultimately, there's a line that can't be crossed.
    I would say DIVORCE I'm not happy he's obviously not happy and wants other women. but thats just me. My fiance and i are very jealous and protective of each other. Good luck!

    Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?

    I'm not in this situation, I've just known friends who have.Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?
    when one builds the foundation of their marriage based on feelings or circumstances and not on a commitment no matter what, it will always end like this. it is selfish, and that person thinks they are running away from a bad thing, but in reality the problem lies within themselves and not with the spouse. in a few years they will fall out of love again, and again over and over again, because they can never take any of the blame or deal with any of the problems because that requires work, and having to look within also, and some people are just not willing to do that, so they fall out of love right into the arms of someone new who doesn't know them yet, who they have no problems with at first.Is it selfish to leave your spouse or break your vows because you fell out of love?
    What do you think? Should vows be taken seriously or not?


    No one falls out of love.


    It is when people start putting their own needs and wants first and stop caring for the other half, that is when they feel that they have fallen out of love.


    Best thing for you to do here is to be a good friend and not offer advice unless asked.
    Yes, he/she will definitely breaks the partner's heart. :-(
    You don't fall out of love. Your infatuation fades. It's selfish to get married for infatuation.
    You don't ';fall out of love.'; Your friend was never in love to begin with. Yes, it is not only selfish, it is going against God. Your friend made a commitment and should stick with it. Maybe your friend should find a way to ';fall back in love.';
    funny you ask, im going through it as we speak. but my story involves alot of drama behind the scenes, not falling out of love for no reason.
    Are you to ashamed to admit that you have done this to your spouse. Yes it's selfish and mean and unforgivable if you or anyone you know has ever done this horrible thing as to cheat on the one person who he or she made a promise to love, cherish and forsaken all others. I never could understand how someone can be so cold and hurtful towards the one person whose only crime was to trust and believe in you. That's one person i wouldn't want to be around or have as a friend. If he or she can do that to the one who loves him what do you think he or she would do if you turned your back on him. Anyone who cheats is not only selfish but is a very hateful person. Anyone who gives me a thumbs down is nothing but a cheater themselves and all cheaters can go start to hell because that's where you belong.
    It is not selfish if you tell them. Cheating on them is. They deserve to be happy too and if you want to be somewhere else you need to go but they also should have the same opportunity to make themselves happy.
    The second you say ';I DO'; the relationship is over. It takes people different lengths of time to realize it. What you should do is once you are in love and happy don't change it and get married. Marriage destroys your love.
    Mybe not because your only putting in right way how you fell to him/ her either. Its better to make a early decission than to keep hold the situation.

    Proven way to prove that your spouse has lied or cheated on you?

    There is none short of catching them in the lie or in the act.Proven way to prove that your spouse has lied or cheated on you?
    Check phone bills. If he says he is somewhere then drive by and see if his car is there... if its not, then BAM! :)Proven way to prove that your spouse has lied or cheated on you?
    The Best Way


    Is to wait for them when they come home


    and instead of greeting them with a warm hug and kiss


    Get all in their face and say ';I KNOW WHAT YOU DID';!!!


    Just get into the habit of doing this at least once a week
    Illegitimate children, STD's/STI's, catching them.





    Whatever you do, don't bate them in to anything, then your behavior is just as shameful.





    Or, and this is the best way to find out anything, ask them, and trust their answer. If you are absolutely positive they have lied or cheated, and they are not straight with you when you confront them, tell them you know the truth, give them your proof, and leave. Because marriages are built on trust, and they betrayed it behind your back, and to your face.
    Since you asked this in philosophy. ';get philosophical.'; %26lt;}:-{(

    Should they make a Thighmaster that changes TV channels so at least your spouse will get some exercise?

    Hm mm...might work...but, I would think it easier, to just marry someone who is similar in energy level, and want to be active, if that is something important to someone!!! If you like to work out, then smarter to find someone else who likes to work out, because the LIKE it, not just a phase, especially if working out is such a big part of life for one of them....But, hey that is just my theory on this. I don't think most spouses who don't care for exercises would use the machine anyways...because even now, they have Thighmasters, and they have remotes...and they don't use them together...CD's and Radio is better to work out to anyways.Should they make a Thighmaster that changes TV channels so at least your spouse will get some exercise?
    Thats good! My husband needs one of those. The second I asked him to help me finish the work on the bathroom THAT HE STARTED...I became the devil, he became hurt with a bad headache yet he is in the other room playing HALO so loud that its shaking the walls and windows the house.





    Wow..Some bad headache!





    Oh yes..that product would be lovely indeed to answer your question. You could market that!Should they make a Thighmaster that changes TV channels so at least your spouse will get some exercise?
    why? he can still sit on his butt with the remote control. He don't need no exercise equipment to change the channels for him. The real question is.. why do they show commercials on T.V of skinny women and men exercising when it's the fat people who need the excercise equipment.?
    lol thats funny but ya they should but me and husband workout 5 times out of the week so we dont have that problem but i understand where your coming from, as a wife i dont understand how other wives let themselves go body wise...and they wonder why there husbands cheat on them
    That's a good one, I think you should make one and try it out and let us know if it works. It may make you a rich person. If it does remember to share the wealth
    No.


    But you should hook the TV up to the treadmill and make is so the TV only works while the treadmill has someone on it.
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  • When you request to remove a spouse who is deceased on a mortgage, will the lender call the loan?

    Do not remove the name until you have completed probate. They should not call the loan, but you need to finish probate first.

    Can you get your deceased spouse's social security benefit if you're over 60?

    My aunt is 63, and her husabnd (my uncle) passed away 8 years ago. Aunt has not remarried and is remaining single. If My uncles was alive he would be between 65 and 70.





    In this case, is my aunt eligible to receive her husband's social security benefit payment? My aunt is a US citizen and so was her husband.Can you get your deceased spouse's social security benefit if you're over 60?
    A widow is eligible for benefits from their deceased husband at age 60.Can you get your deceased spouse's social security benefit if you're over 60?
    Yes. As the unremarried widow of her husband she can get Social Security spousal payments, and I believe she is eligible at 62, though you should definitely check with SSA to see if she can claim it earlier.

    What are some ways that you may have found to assure your spouse of your love?

    LISTEN TO HER.





    Come home every night right after work.





    Help with the kids and housework.





    Praise and compliment her.





    Overly affectionate and attempt to be romantic.





    Love her unconditionally!What are some ways that you may have found to assure your spouse of your love?
    I used to think to be open and honest, and be a standard Boy Scout,





    But really then it seems like that just blows up in my face.





    However, when I am casually rude, forget full, and not so nice, it is unbelievable how she feels so secure and loved.





    Wacko just plan weird...





    Good luckWhat are some ways that you may have found to assure your spouse of your love?
    I don't cheat on him. I work my @ss off to bring in what I bring in, I clean the house, I take care of myself. I tell him I love him. I am affectionate to him. I am his friend and he can trust me.
    The absolute best method is to be open and honest with her. Always tell her the truth. Its makes more of an impression than any gift.
    surprised him with a trip to Las Vegas.... and you know what happens in Vegas, etc.

    Is it must for the spouse to work in Canada if she comes through open work permit?

    No, she doesn't have to work. She can stay as long as her work permit is valid.

    Since Women Cheat On The Spouse More Than Men Do?

    This is a follow up question to this question that I just asked





    http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20081119043114AA95XxP





    Why doesn't society treat women who cheat just as harshly?





    Women who cheat on their husbands still get to rob him of his money and get custody of his kids.


    Since Women Cheat On The Spouse More Than Men Do?
    I don't really agree with you. Most people that I know frown on infidelity whether on the part of a man or woman. When you say ';rob'; are you talking about child support? That is an obligation of the man if the woman has custody of the child. Infidelity sucks either way and I would not wish it on anyone because it tears families apart and hurts children.Since Women Cheat On The Spouse More Than Men Do?
    True, women are given the advantage in court, regardless of whether or not they were the one who broke faith.


    There was a time when men had all the advantages, and now it is women. Neither is right, and goes to show the injustice of the extremes of both ends of the spectrum.


    In a perfect world, each situation should be tried on a case by case basis. But alas, this is a most unperfect world, and becoming more and more so with each passing day.
    Wait a minute. You can't just make a claim like that without backing it up with some evidence. Where are your statistics on that one, because I would be very surprised if that were true.





    Secondly, if infidelity is proven in a marriage it does not bode well for a divorce settlement.





    Women do not generally rob him of ';his money'; unless he was really rich beforehand. It is THEIR money since they were married. So she stays home with the kids and doesn't work, should she be completely screwed out of the family income because of that? No, she gets paid what he would have had to pay a nanny for that.





    I think women are treated very harshly and fairly when they cheat on their husband. Nobody ever calls the man a whore, do they?
    really? Then why do statistics show that the majority of newly divorced mothers have less income and a much lower standard of living than 1) they had prior to the divorce and 2) their ex-husbands have?
    I think ever since women rights have been acceptable, men have always been pictured as the more oppressive. I mean, women rights are good, but its kind of a double standard.
    Who knows if that is actually the case or not?





    Why not just stay out of relationships and don't worry about it?

    What does it mean to leave your parents and cleave to your spouse?

    Its sounds like the bible is asking us to abandon our parents for our spouse. Why would the bible ask us to do this?What does it mean to leave your parents and cleave to your spouse?
    So you can Become One Flesh.








    (That means SEX, btw. It's just a more fun way of saying Bumpin' Uglies., Makin' Bacon, etc)What does it mean to leave your parents and cleave to your spouse?
    It is not abandoning them. Rather it is a rearranging of priorities. Your priority as a husband is to your wife - not to your parents any more. As a wife, your priorities are to your husband - not your parents.


    You must have heard a description of a guy as being tied to his mother's apron strings. Unless he unties himself, he will not be a good husband.


    Focus on the Family has often done programs on marriage. Here are a couple of programs that you will want to have a listen to so that you can see what someone else says on this topic.
    thats because the bible said thart when you get married u become one and God knows everything. and also because u will start ur own family.
    God tells us to honor our Father and Mother, so no, we should never abandon our parents. I think it has to do with the hierarchy of their leadership in our lives.





    When we marry, like the unity candle symbolizes, we relinquish our individual selves and unite into a new unit called the marriage. By putting our selves in line behind the good of the marriage, we have also placed our individual families behind it too.
    It's not, it just means that when a man finds a wife, he would leave home and start one of his own.
    I think somebody needs to have a long talk with you
    The husband and wife become a new family. They are to rely and help each other, to encourage and support each other. They should not be looking to other people to help them out number their spouse, but they need to learn to work together, for life.
    What this means is that you leave your parents home and cleave(become a part of and remain faithful too) your spouse.
    The family arrangement is a perfect way for humans to live. The bible does not say to abandon our parents, but when a man takes a wife he is the head of the family thus he is responsible for the family spiritual matters and physical matters. It is God's will for us humans to worship him and populate the earth as the same purpose Adam and eve were to do. All part of God's arrangement for us. We are still to honor our parents not forget them.
    nah





    that's just the marriage thing...





    just transferring from one household to another.
    You leave one family, and join another. That is why brides are ';given away';, normally by their father, even today.
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  • How did you meet your spouse/significant other?

    Let's do a fun one for a change guys. Best story wins best answer!How did you meet your spouse/significant other?
    I met my husband through my cousin. Because he was interested in her lol.


    They had dated previously beforehand. He was working out of town, and had been chatting on the phone with her off and on for a few months. He came home for a family funeral one weekend, and decided he wanted to ask her out again.


    She kept putting him off and saying no and so then he decides to ask for my help, since she's my best friend. So I say yes. I do everything in my power to try to get these two together!!!! One night, I arranged for them to both come and help me decorate my house for the holidays. He shows up, but she doesnt. I call and call her, and she says I've just had a shower, my hair is wet and I don't want to get sick. I'll be down in an hour. Okay so an hour goes by, and she doesn't know. I call her back and she says, ';I'm not interested and I don't know how to tell him.'; I get off the phone and it isnt my place to let him know how she feels, so I tell him she's not coming and I dont know why. We hung out that night, and we clicked. He stopped calling her, and he starts calling me. We talked on the phone every single night for a month. He came home for Christmas on December 21st of 2005. We started dating. In June of 06, he asked for my hand in marriage. On July 7th, of this year, we were married. SHE WAS MY MAID OF HONOR!! lol..


    We're so happy together and so deeply in love. I thank her everyday lol.


    It was a bit weird at first, but everything is cool now. We all hang out together and double date.


    Life couldnt be better!How did you meet your spouse/significant other?
    Saw him online on an enthusiast board. Talked in IM's and email for a while, then I went to meet him face to face 2 1/2 hours away two states over.





    We are now together for over four years and getting married June 2008.
    At church. He was visiting his brother, who was our priest.
    I met my husband at our old work place in a restaurant. I was the hostess and he was the food server. It was a Super Bowl Sunday (Cowboys vs. Bears) and I sat in an area waiting for my orientation near a bar. I noticed this cute guy walking by serving his tables. Then I saw him again during my orientation. He was eating during his break. We both were introduced. I thought he was really cute. Well, we became co-workers. I always looked forward to work. I would get there early enough to see him and talk for a moment. I loved it when I sat people in his section and how sometimes I'd be following behind him and checking out his bum-bum. It would just make my night. Well 2 months working together (no one had a clue that I had a crush on this guy), his shift ended and I was still working. We both said bye and he walked out the door. He turned around and walked back in and asked if I wanted to go out and watch a movie (Jackie Chan movie). I said sure. Not even an hour went by and he calls and asked if I had a bf or if I was married because he didn't want to get into trouble. I said nope! Well, we went to the movies and had a few drinks. Nothing happened for the next 3 dates. It was just casual dates. Well, I don't know who kissed who first but from that moment on, things got serious. It was so amazing to be dating him. No one at work had any idea that we dated until one night, we all went clubbing after work and finally the secret was out. After 3 months of dating, our co-workers found out. Now it's been 11 yrs later and we have a beautiful daughter together. He's a wonderful husband, father, and provider. I appreciate him more everytime someone asks this question.
    Picture it, A high school parking lot, Your 15 years old, You arrived at school with your friends, you pull in to the parking lot and pull in to a beautiful 1964 Buick Skylark convertible. You fall in love with the car, and wonder who would bring such a gorgeous car to a hostile place? You spend the day asking everyone you know who owns that car, Suddenly you find him, in your science class, He over hears you talking about this car, He walks up to you and says ';It's mine, You like it?'; You lay you eyes on him and that鈥檚 it, He's the man of your dreams. That鈥檚 how it happened with my husband and I. From that day on him and I have spent 28 years restoring these beautiful cars. Of course I love him for more then just the cars. But it was that car that made me search. We wish we still had that car, but it's all part of life.
    I was at the park for my friends birthday party. she and I went to a Catholic high school together and she had invited a bunch of kids from her neighborhood that went to the public school. He was sitting across the park alone so I went over to talk to him and he offered me some of his soft drink , and we talked for a long time. When my girlfriend saw she said it must be true love because he never shared his soda with anyone. We dated for a year and a half then were married for 27 yrs. Now divorced...but that's another story
    I met him in India. It was an arranged marriage. But God's hand was in it though. Yeah, it sounds so cliche' but true. I didn't want an arranged marriage, for all the reasons most americans say no to this type of nuptual. But I figured, that the guys in India were ready, even if I wasn't....so I decided to give him a fair shake. Ok, I met him because his cousin came to see me and I told him I didn't want an arranged marriage. He went to a wedding where my husband and his family were. He told him about me. Then my guy wanted to meet me. We met...didn't say much, and exchanged #'s. Our families were cool with each other. We courted for three months. I told him i wasn't for arrangments, but I told him I wanted to marry him. I did, i didn't know y. I just fell head over heels. So through it all, he just kept in mind that I wanted to marry him, and I guess ignored all the other crap i was saying about arranged marriages. Through the whole ordeal, he kept reassuring me that I'll be a good wife, and we'll do fine in a marriage. We've been married a little under four months now, and everything's going strong so far. I just miss him though. Oh well...he'll be here before I know it.
    He used to be my boss.
    i had a second job at the Bone Fish Grill as a key manager and she was the hostess and we kinda started a mild relationship nothing serious BUT THEN....... hurricane katrina came through our town and as i lay in bed still trashed from the hurricane party the night before she came over drug me out of bed and took me up north to her granparents house. my house was completely gone (nothing but a foundation slab) when we got back we have been together ever since and we will be married in march
    I met my husband on my front door step...literally.





    My sister was at my house one day, and a friend of her's came to pick her up to go out for the evening. My ';husband'; was a mutual friend and was along for their outing. Since my sister is handicapped and was in a wheelchair at that time, the two guys helped me bring her and her chair off the porch.


    I never asked his name, and really had no interest in dating anyone at that time as I has just bought a new house and was tied up with work and college and life in general.





    About a week later, these same guys had a Halloween party and invited my sister....and since she could not drive, I took her and was asked to stay. My ';husband'; asked me to play pool to finish out their foursome. For the rest of the night he kept asking me if I wanted to have ';a lifelong affair'; with him....and of course in my blindness, I didn't see that he was hitting on me.





    For the next week after that, he would call my house and ask if my sister was there....haha....then finally, he got up the nerve to ask me to go to dinner and the movies. Oddly enough, I almost did not go! He showed up at my door with flowers and acted like a true gentleman. After the date he shook my hand and left, but, according to him, he was home a whole 10 minutes before he called and asked me to go out again the next night.





    Needless to say, I never dated anyone else after that. We have been together for 16 years, with 11 of those as husband and wife.
    Through school we met,The nightlife after a few drinks on the town. He looked very nice after a few... Then realty hit home the teens life of experimenting are over, A baby boy is born then comes the real life a mother of all...
    In a bar and drunk. He lost my number but three years later engaged and getting married,
    My fiance and I met at the laundromat. I worked there and he was a patron. We talked while I cleaned. We all hit it off really well. I say all because we both had kids. We have been together five and a half years now (engaged four and a half). I think that the best relationships come along when you aren't looking.
    We met on a blind date. Now we've been together for over 4 years and are getting married 08/02/08. He's my best friend.
    In college. We were both the same major - civil engineering (CE). Every year in May, the CE department has a banquet where they hand out awards (there is a competition every year around April with a lot of events, some of them engineering related, some not). Well, I had participated in an event, and my guy had just transferred into the school a few months earlier, so he had only been involved in a different event and didn't have time to go to the competition. I got there with one of my friends and sat at a table, and my guy arrived kinda late, and there weren't many seats left, and he ended up sitting at my table. Well, we started talking, and ended up just talking to each other the whole evening. He looked up my school email address over the following weekend and sent me an email asking me out. We have both since graduated, and have been together over 3 years. We hope to be married next year.
    He and I knew each other all of our lives. His parents rented an apartment my grandparents owned before we were born (we're only 6 days apart). He and I really hated each other most of our childhood and didn't start being somewhat friendly to one another till we were about 16. After that we slowly started becoming friends. Now if you look at us, we look like one of the happiest couples there could be. It's still a shock to us that we're even together given our past. We have a really good story of how we got together but I don't have enough time to type all of that too.
    I met my husband on a Yahoo military chat about 3 1/2 yrs ago. He was in Iraq at the time and would only come online for about 5 mins everyday, so i called him the ';mistery guy'; lol because i would talk to him for so little. One day we decided to exchange numbers but around that time i was dealing with a really bad break up, he was getting ready for another deployment and wanted to come see me, we lived 2 hours away from each other, but i was so hurt by the break up that i told him that i was ready for a relationship so he never came to see me. He left for his deployment on June '06 , around July '06 we started emailing each other everyday, 4 to 5 times a day, everything was doing great when i got caught up on another guy at the same time and started dating him, i had to tell my now husband the truth and so i did, he told me that he respected my decision so we stopped talking. About 3 months later i wanted to get rid of this guy because i was always thinking of my now husband, so i tried breaking up with him and he wouldn't let me but finally one day he confesed that he had cheated on me, i was a bit hurt, so i emailed my now husband telling him everything i went through and he was there for me the whole time, he helped get through it all and even told me he would wait for me and he did, In November 15th we started dating, on New year's after the countdown he proposed to me, and we just had a beautiful wedding on July 14th 2007, it took a long timefor us to get together and we went through a lot but we're together now and it's what matters....





    I hope you like my story!! :)
    i went to a strip club and i gave her a couple of dollar bills.
    I met my husband at work. I worked at vons (grocery store) as a courtesy clerk and my husband worked in the gas station at vons. One day I was outside pushing in the carts and he was outside wiping down the pumps, I asked him how much he made working outside in the gas station. He said he made 6.35 an hour. I laughed and said so that means if we ever went out on a date I would have to pay cause I make more then you... he laugh and said no. Later on that week ..he asked one of my friends who we also worked with for my number and he ended up calling me and we went on our first day.... needless to say he ended up paying!!!
    he is my bf.. heres how i met him...


    there was a guy who messaged me on myspace just to tell me he liked the song i had on my page (it was one of his all time fav songs)


    so we wrote each other and chatted on yahoo a coupel times.. nothing really though


    then one day about a month later, me messaged me on yahoo and said ';are you my neighbor';?


    i had not previously told him where i lived other then the town (wich has a population of nearly 40,000)


    apparently his brother was at his apt and was watching out the window for his mom to pick him up and saw a girl carrying in laundry and siad he thoguht it was ';that girl on your myspace';.... my bf didnt believe him so he looked out and he was like no way.. cant be.. so he messaged me to ask me if i was his neighbor. I asked him where he lived- same place as me and same buildign but i played it off saying ';oh my friend lives there'; wich was true... i had a friend who lived on the 3rd floor of my building.. so not only was he my neighbor- he lived in apt 3 and me in 2.. we were close as neighbors could possibly be! so we decided since we basically knew each other already we amy as well meet jsut to hang out.. wich was cool.. wed hang out and talk and stuff and i thoguht he didnt like me (but he did)... then the more we talked the more coincidences we came across... like a guy i mentioned being really good friends with (ill call him justin).... well aparently justin's mom and my bfs mom were the best of freinds when my bf and justin were kids.... then he mentioned sumthin about his cousin who lived in these apts on campus like 4 yrs prior .. come to find out- his cousin was my ';roomate';... he was actually jsut a feeloader.. but yea...


    and my bf had been at that apt many times and yet i dont remember him at all!


    we have been together a lil over a year now :)
    I used to live in Eastern Europe and moved back to Canada about a year and a half ago. When I got home I had ';reverse culture shock'; and didn't feel I could stay there, so I moved across the country and stayed with my uncle for a few weeks before meeting a girl who had two roommates and they needed a 4th person for their house.





    So, I moved into the 4th bedroom. There was this slightly nerdy guy who also lived there, and we instantly became joined at the hip! We were best friends pretty quickly and did everything together. We hung out after work every single day and also on the weekends.





    After six months, I moved out to be closer to work and one day we had ';the talk'; (he started it) and the rest is history! I was freaking out because I didn't want to lose our friendship, but it's been almost 18 months and we're so perfect together.





    By the way - I came to this city saying I'd only be here for six months (it's been 20 months so far) and that I didn't want to date anyone while I was here! So much for those ideas. ;o)
    In a bar. Was there with my ex. Queen's ';Bohemian Rhapsody'; was playing. My SO was playing air guitar and making eyes with me. I later broke up with the ex and kept running into my SO. My SO was relentless. He took me out on a date, we had our first kiss, my head started spinning and the rest is history. That kiss sealed it for me. I just KNEW he was the one. :)
    Elementary school. 2nd grade when we were 7.
    I met my husband at college, i was going to visit my brother in the computer lab and when i walked past my husband he fell off the chair and just happened to be looking up my skirt, a concerned friend of my brothers informed him that glenn was perving on his sister, this was to glenns advantage cos he now knew my full name and was able to look me up in the email system, after 3 weeks of emails he finally got the courage to ask me out, the rest is history
    In a yahoo chat room, not sure which one it was though. I think that they got rid of it, maybe a Greensboro or North Carolina chat in June 2005. I had just went through a SERIOUSLY horrible break up and had moved in with my parents temporarily , I had no night life so I chatted on line in the evenings. Same for him, we both worked odd schedules. I think we were the only real people in the chat room the rest were porn bots. I don't remember talking in it, just sitting and he sent me a private message asking how I liked being a EMT, so we chatted for a few weeks and talked on the phone..for long periods of time. Then we went out on our first date on my 21st birthday :) I couldn't have found a nicer, caring, generous, Christian man so It was a pretty good birthday present. He lived about 40 mins away and after being inseparable for 4 months, we moved in together and now we are getting married Dec. 1st 2007. Seventy some more days to go, Thanks Yahoo!! You were good for one really great thing. It's amazing how God works miracles over the internet.
    I work at Sam's Club. HUGE store, so obvously when a new girl starts there, all the guys are all over it. LOL So i was the new girl about 2 years ago. And there was this one guy who worked in the produce department, which was right next to my department, that I knew liked me. But he would never talk to me other then to say hi. I knew he liked me but I was SO not into him, and he would have his friend ask me for my number. I would tell them that if it was for him then to just tell him I had a boyfriend, because I didn't want anything to do with him. He was creepy, he would literally trip over boxes, and drool when I walked by. (I'm not that good looking)





    One day, I was talking to a friend of mine about how stupid men are, and he was standing right behind her, kind of easy dropping. And so I looked at him and said, 'This idiot likes me, but doesn't even have the balls to ask me out. Not even to get some coffee on our lunch break' So he completely stops what he was doing, and told me that we were going to starbucks. Ummmm creepy guy, is pulling me around... ok. Well he had just gotten into work, about an hour before, and I only had an hour left before I went home. So we had a 15 minute break to spend together. Well An hour and a half later, we went back into work. I had the best time with this man, that I thought was creepy in an hour and a half then I had, had in my whole life. As soon as we got back to work, we walked right back out and played miniture golf and lazer tag. And you know those claw machines??? He spent about $20 on one of those to try and get me something, and finally I asked him for a quarter and on the first try I got him a scooby-doo stuff doggy. And so now every time we're anywhere that has one of those machines we HAVE TO get something. I have a whole room of stupid stuffed things. Anyways though, I fell in love that night. I never knew that I could be that happy, and I wanted to spend everyday with him.





    This past new years eve we went to Las Vegas, on the strip. This idiot wanted to wear this super huge jacket that night and I didnt understand why. Because it was so so so hot. Well when the clock stuck 12 and the fireworks went off he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I didn't say yes, I just yelled at him that he was kneeing on the dirtiest ground ever. Eventually I said yes. And as soon as I did my phone rang, it was my parents calling to congradulate me, and then my sister called, and then my gramma then my brothers, then my friends. Everyone knew what was going on except me. He amazes me everyday that we're together.


    If you want to go check out more of us you can always go to my myspace at...





    http://www.myspace.com/banginasskass


    Read my blogs and check out our pictures


    Or go to...


    http://kassieanddanny.ourweddingday.com/


    Read my journal page or go and check out all of my wedding day stuff in the photo albums.
    I asked a question on here and he answered.





    Just kidding. We met in college. Wish I had something more exciting!

    How did you know your spouse was your soulmate?

    when we talked we couldn't stop and when we were quiet we were both quiet. We looked at each other like we were seeing each other's soul. When we were separated we wrote or called every day even if there was nothing to say except I love you. We knew we wanted to get married and we knew we wanted to have children together. and on and on. Did we like the same things - not necessarily. Did we have the same religion - no. Did our parents use the same parenting methods- no. That all started 44 years ago. We're still at it. How did you know your spouse was your soulmate?
    I knew I met my soulmate years ago. His name was Dan. He desided to become a priest and so circumstance keeps us apart. I will tell you how I knew. Everytime he touched me, even if he just brushed my arm I would feel warm. When he kissed me I forgot about everything else in the world. He didnt have to touch me, if he was even near me I was disterbed, and unsettled. I smiled every time I heard his name. To this day when I think about him I smile.





    My advice is if you have found something like this FIGHT FOR IT. Dont let love pass you by. You will regret it for the rest of your life.How did you know your spouse was your soulmate?
    After being gone from home for a couple of weeks, tired and longing for my surroundings, enjoying my time away but missing the comfort that one can only find inside the walls of their own home - that is what it felt like when he was near. It was just like coming home. Comfortable and safe, familiar and mine. All that I ever wanted was there with him.
    I think there is not one soul mate for everyone....sometimes there are more then one....do I think I am married to my soul mate....yes...but I have thought that 2 other times..,..I just know I love him more then anyone ever in my life(other then my kids)....I hope he is my soul mate and we will be together forever...
    When all the fluff of a new relationship was gone and we were just together in everyday life and I still could not see my life without him I knew he was forever my soulmate.
    Ha!
    love at first site..and 20 years later...

    What do you or your spouse always disagree about?

    The temperature of the bedroom. What to cook for dinner. What we need at the grocery store. Stupid, mundane things. We always agree on the important stuff and if we don't, we talk about it and resolve it very quickly.What do you or your spouse always disagree about?
    Everything. About how he considers cleaning the house..picking up one of his empty cereal bowls and leaving the other three.





    Me: Can you please help me pick up the house?





    Hubby: ';In a minute (I hope she forgets and does it herself)';, or ';I'm tired';, or ';I worked cleaning yesterday(I put the milk back in the fridge)';





    Me: You cleaned?!!!!





    Hubby:This is why I don't clean





    Me:Why?





    Hubby:Because you don't appreciate anything I do!





    Me: You can't even pick your socks up from off the floor!





    Hubby:The kids put them there when they took them off.








    Me pissed! Him watching t.v.What do you or your spouse always disagree about?
    ohhhhhh everything!!!!


    There's very little men and woman do agree about, they are wired completely different. The trick is to pick and Choice your battles and the rest of the time meet in the middle some ware.Or the old fashion YES DEAR always works too.
    Smoking. She has lost one lung, uterus, %26amp; one ovary to cancer. She still smokes.





    Time. She is always late. She was 40 min late to our wedding 42 yrs ago and we have never caught up that 40 min. Still runs 40 min late.
    We are separated and on our way down Di-zy St. and for the last 6 months, we have agreed upon that one thing. You know that one thing. I'm gonna miss that one thing. Ev v v v verything else was a disagreement. Yep.
    How often to go back and visit family. He would be content with never going back and I say at least a few times a year. Other than that I totally agree with the flannel sheets thing!
    His parents, mainly his father. He sticks up for him no matter what the situation. His dad can openly diss me and I snap back, then we fight because I yelled at his dad.


    I am always at fault.
    I want flannel sheets in the winter b/c I always freeze but he is always hot and refuses. That's about it right now! sorry haha
    Everything. But I love him so much He is my best friend.
    Money. He's a shopaholic.
    Hockey. He can't seem to understand the Red Wings are the greatest team EVAH. He'll learn.
    When she has had enough to drink. Married to a sot sucks.
    When and how often to have sex. And dicipline of the kids.
    The way we talk to each other.
    what a douch he is....sorry...bad day

    I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?

    If my wife finds porn on our computer, she gets very mad and threatens to divorce me...I love her and don't want a divorce, especially since we have a baby on the way. I look at porn to stimulate myself, but she calls it cheating. I think I have a higher sex drive than her, bc she never masturbates. She has asked me to start seeing a shrink (which I am doing) but how can I masturbate without porn?I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?
    No. Women are usually jealous and don't like it because it translate into something that they aren't doing right. Which is most often the case, but their denial only makes it that much real. Sometimes you just want to get off, and not go through the who ritual of foreplay, getting her turned on or getting told she isn't in the mood etc.





    That's where mistresses and porn become involved.I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?
    Porn can cause a dependency for sexual stimulation. Too much of it can cause you to only become aroused by more pornography. You can masturbate without porn by using your imagination. Think of the things you like to see in porn and imagine those situations.





    Your wife might be insecure because she's pregnant and she might not see herself as sexy. ( I say might, because I'm not a professional therapist, and I've never met her).





    Would she be willing to go to therapy with you? Looking at porn isn't cheating as far as I'm concerned, but I'm another guy. Since your wife has issues about it, which might be because of the way she was raised, I think joint counseling would help you as a couple.





    Personally, I don't see any difference between a man looking at porn and a woman reading a sexually explicit romance novel. Men are visually oriented, so that's how we need to experience most of the things that satisfy our primal urges.
    im a wife, and i don't really see it as cheating in fact i some time watch it with my husband and he tells me that he do, but at the same time its not effecting out love and sexual life, if it does then yes it is a problem but for me i find it better the cheating on me.


    and sure you can masturbate, i find it Fine and not cheating...
    You can't and your wife is a very interesting. If playing with your weiner is the same as having sex with another women in her eyes and you're still there, I suggest you start humping her sister(s) and/or friends and every female that will give you a little ride. Just as a side note..why do you leave traces of porn for her to find? Don't you know how to hide the evidence? Ya know, I get tired of men now days whining on the computer about their wives instead being real men and just closing the door and smacking some sense and respect right into her. If my lady even thought of questioning anything I did, she'd have broken ribs instantly.
    Porn is an addiction that stimulates a chemical in your brain. It isn't good for you and can effect your lovelife and marriage. If that isn't enough to get you to stop then you have a problem. many men that are addicted to porn cheat on their wives because they are always aroused and the wife isn't always in the mood. Also, it can get to a point to where your wife isn't enough. There are men being counceled for porn addiction everywhere. It is a common problem.
    ';technically'; its not cheating, BUT if you need porn to masterbate that would mean you need to be looking at other woman to get off cant you just have an image of your wife in your head and masterbate? otherwise have sex with her?... its not bad but it does hurt her feelings because she thinks maybe shes not sexy enough for you to have to look at other woman in order to get off.
    She needs to see a shrink too since she had such a strong reaction by threatening divorce. She's using threats to gain control...many women don't like porn because it decreases the value of their *#@%!%26amp;^, which they use to control men...both of you see shrink...if she refuses, then you know where most of the problem lies.
    i do mastrubate once in a while for a change.i do not use porn, but i do so watching my wife undresss or having bathe and sometimes she doies mastrubate me and hence no problem
    I don't think porn is cheating but if you NEED it then you do need counseling. This is a question for your shrink.
    Just tell her to get her clothes off and show her what you really want!!!
    You have a wife!


    now you need to learn how to keep her and your family!
    Technically it is not cheating since there is physically no other person involved in what you do. BUT : you are doing it behind your back, which makes it look like you are hiding something from her, eventhough I agree it is something very personal when you go off to masturbate.


    Hiding it is almost like an admission that you feel guilty and know it's wrong to keep it from her. And she knows anyways if she ';finds'; it on the computer, it means she has been looking for it !!!


    I am very torn over this issue myself. I can tell you that many women feel like they will never measure up to the women you get off to , that you will compare her to what you see on your computer , that your expectations of ';normal'; sex with her get screwed, that she is not enough for you and that you need more than her to get your satisfaction. And worst of all who do you think of when you are having sex with her, she'll wonder about that each time you close your eyes! She'll wonder if she is just a warm body to live out your fantasies about the women you see in your porn flicks. Not a good feeling , and it seriously can undermine your relationship, closeness and trust you should be having in your marriage , not to mention her self esteem will take a nosedive if it is a constant issue!


    Not all women think that way, some are rather ok with their men watching porn and them getting off without their involvement. But for the rest of us , we want to be your fantasy and would go to great length to satisfy your cravings. If you look elsewhere for your thrills it hurts her feelings, promise you that is what your problem is !


    Hope this helped you understand what your women may think, if she hasn't told you so yet herself .


    Talk to her before you ruin what you have over porn!


    Good luck ;)

    How long does it take to lose the physical attraction to your spouse?

    I think my wife is hot, until she speaks.How long does it take to lose the physical attraction to your spouse?
    Depends . . . on what she does.





    Some women . . . right after they get married . . . gain 50-60 lbs . . . chop off the their long beautiful hair . . . and stop doing the stuff that we love . . . except when they are in the mood.





    Then they start nagging . . . why did you change . . . when they are the ones that changed . . .





    And when they start nagging . . . our sex drive goes down. or we find hotter chicks to take their space.How long does it take to lose the physical attraction to your spouse?
    3 hours after sex
    Well, if you think you're losing physical attraction to your spouse, it's all in your head. We've been married for 3 years in April, known each other for 5 years in March, and lived together since about week 6. We're still attracted to each other. One thing that helps, get a hair cut. I had my hair cut from my waist about 10'; for Locks for Love and it ended up higher than my shoulders. My husband got home from a week long trip and was like, ';Wow!'; because it enhanced my facial features, and was a totally different looks, with new hair styles and (my prerogative) a few new outfits to go to bed in. Try being away from each other for a night. Even if you dont have sex all that often, not having that person for a night by your side drives you crazy. My husband had to take trips for a week at a time and it was amazing how much fun we had when he came home.





    Lastly, just thinking about how much you love your spouse and how many good memories the two of you have, can drive you wild for her again as well. Good luck, and keep the romance!
    Depends on the circumstances. If you train your eyes not to look at other women, however, your wife will ALWAYS look pretty darn good.
    once a woman eats wedding cake they sex stops
    1 second to 100 years. Each situation is different. Each person is different. Your question is similar to; How long will that tree live?'; You get married, if you are both intelligent people, then the marriage will last. If neither one is intelligent or only one is intelligent then the marriage is doomed to fail.





    And I don't necessarily mean masters degrees type intelligence either. The intelligence is common sense. My parents did not graduate high school. My parents made it to 50 years of marriage. Would have been more, but folks pass away. Successful Marriage is work. It has to be invested in. The biggest investment is commitment. There are many other variables.
    I've been married 24 years...he can still take my breath away! Keep things spontaneous and keep trying new things together. Everyday isn't going to be perfect, but the hard work is worth it.
    I think as soon as she/he is bored of you.
    It depends on how much you were physically attracted to them in the first place and how much you love them. You know the phrase ';Love is blind';. That is true in some cases. When you are in love with someone then they are the best looking person to you though they may not be to anyone else. Another case would be that if that person looked a certain way when you got married and then their body shape has changed after the marriage has went on for some time(like weight gain) which happens alot with women...then husband loses the physical attraction for their spouse. Men are mostly drawn by site so for their women to stay in shape is very important to them.
    i was totally and completely crapped on by my ex wife of ten years. i hate her as a person but, i will always be physically attracted to her.

    How can i get National insurance number in UK.?I am on spouse visa.?

    You can use mine if you want, I live in France and really don't need it anymore, plus, your paying my contributions would mean I could register for tax in the UK and be exempt from French taxation... the best of both worlds; let me know your address and I'll send you my card.





    P.S. You'll have to change your name on ';official'; documentation but this can be done at a post office by deed poll for æ‹¢15 in the UK.
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  • How would you react if you saw someone doing this with their spouse?

    You know someone who's been married for years, and their spouse has recently died. You come by to visit one day and learn that the deceased was never buried, but is still kept in the house as if he/she had never died, where the widow(er) continues to do that thing that husbands and wives do with each other.





    What is your reaction?How would you react if you saw someone doing this with their spouse?
    slowly back away and call the mental institutionHow would you react if you saw someone doing this with their spouse?
    I wouldn't know what to do because this never happened to me but I would leave and call the cops probably.
    EWW
    Forget the visit and walk away...........
    Say thats not what I meant when I said go home and crack open a cold one.
    My reaction would be to contact the police immediately and report the situation.
    Please call the police and tell them you suspect the deceased was never buried because you visited one day and smelled what you think may be a dead body. Try to keep the details of what you saw to yourself (if possible). Your friend has enough problems without that part of it getting smeared all over the press. What comes of it will be bad enough. When he/she gets in counseling hopefully it may come out then and he/she can be treated accordingly.
    I would call the cops and have them turn them over to the mental health workers.
    i would be thinking that person really needs some help...
    :O
    I would talk to that person
    i'd call the police.


    that's against the law.
    Man, that's crazy, i would probably leave...
    EWWW
    I'd leave and never come back, that's it
    i dont know how to respond to that, but something like that was on an episode of desperate house wives, but i would get her help, call someone, do something, but id be stunned for a while if i knew her that well.
    NECROPHILIAC ALERT, THAT'S WHAT I WOULD SAY TO THE POLICE, WHEN I CALL THEM
    Call the state mental hospital.
    get them mental help......they are obviously not coping with the death well

    Married Filing Joint with Injured spouse?

    I was married in June of 08, my husband owes back child support as well as back taxes, And is self employed I know that if I file Jointly my return will be kept. But can I file jointly and immediately file an injured spouse form when sending in my paper work? Or should i keep myself safe all together and file separate? What is the best way to get the most money back QUICKLY!Married Filing Joint with Injured spouse?
    i dont know much about an injured spouse form but i'd file seprately to be safe.


    it all depends on the deductions you'll be taking.. if you file seprately there's many deductions and credits you will not be allow to file for.Married Filing Joint with Injured spouse?
    Send in the injured spouse form with your return. Your share of the refund will be delayed though while they process it.





    You can file as married filing separately and your refund won't be affected by what he owes. But it might cost you, since you'll pay more tax by filing separately. Depending on circumstances it could be just a few dollars or could be thousands of dollars - figure it both ways before deciding.
    What state are you in? If you are in California, the injured spouse form doesn't work the way you think it does.





    First off, if you are self-employed, you may OWE money, not have a refund.





    Second, if you file MFS and have children, you cannot get EIC or education credits for them.





    Third, you essentially married his debt when you married him. You really ought to work on this debt and get it out of your life.
    filed jointly and attach the injured spouse form 8379 because if you file married seperate you'd get less back because you'd pay more taxes and lose all credits such as eic and child tax credits.
    If you get EIC %26amp; CTC you should file jointly and include form 8379 aka Injured Spouse Allocation with your return filed. If you go married, filing seperate you forfeit EIC, CTC, EDUCATION CREDITS and yada. Run your taxes both ways and see which is best.

    Who should you love most: spouse or children?

    Serious answers only, please.Who should you love most: spouse or children?
    I think the ';right'; answer is children ... but as someone who doesn't want kids it's hard for me to relate to. I don't want, nor do I think I could ever love anyone more than I love my current boyfriend (future husband). And to be honest I don't want him to ever love anyone more than he loves me.





    I think if you have children though, it's your responsibility to always put them first.Who should you love most: spouse or children?
    It is depend on your lady's sensitive. The perspective of which your lady is more of feminine or down earth. There are few of feminine is in ';kind-of'; high maintenance that want you to love her more than children. I have been through before. If a lady who is down earth (understanding where she is come from), you can love her and children on both. I do believe, that if you love children more than you love her. She will think that you are rejecting to spend quality time with her than children. I know. It is depend on women's sensitive. You have to be very careful what the woman is emotionally and physically. You have to understand but you have to deal both to love in the balance time 50% and 50%.
    There has to be equal balance or you fail. You cannot focus entirely on your children and ignore your relationship with your spouse. Look at Jon and Kate. However, if you put your marriage before your children the majority of the time, they learn that they don't matter and that screws them up, often for life.





    Balance is key.
    I don't think that you love one more than the other because you love them differently. I would die for any of them but if I could only save the spouse or the child it would be the child and he would do the same.
    between a spouse and children, I dont think I have to choose who to love most. my love for my children is UNCONDITIONAL. my love for my husband means the world to me. I just show love to them in many, many different ways. no ifs or buts.
    No contest there.





    The spouse must take precedence. This is the vessel from which those brats who are nothing but nuisances come from! If I were that vessel's captain, I would lock all doors and throw away the key! Give those kids a chance and they'd ruin your life, I tell ya!!!
    two different types of love, you love your spouse passionately and romantically and you love your children unconditionally
    My husband and I teach our family this: God first, spouse second and then children. This doesn't mean we prioritize the children last, they take most of our time and we love giving it to them.
    children... always...
    Spouse is a special love. Children are a different love. Keep them both protected
    Children they always love you unconditionally
    Spouse, while you protect your children most.
    i don't really think you love one more than the other one, you just love them in different ways.
    well...you love them with the same amount of love...but a different love......make sense?...
    i believe you cant love one more than other.
    children i think

    If you found out your spouse was having an affair with a younger person what would you do ?

    I would divorce him and go on with my life.If you found out your spouse was having an affair with a younger person what would you do ?
    It depends on if you care enough to still stay with him/her, if you can ever trust him/her again, and if he/she has left the younger affairee.


    Affairs usually leave open, gaping wounds in a relationship and can't always be patched up. Consider doing something right for yourself and leave your spouse.


    If whats right feels like you still need to be with this person, than communicate and start the healing process. Whatever that may be for you.If you found out your spouse was having an affair with a younger person what would you do ?
    I left. It doesn't matter who the other person was. Its painful and disrespectful and I refuse to be in a relationship with total lack of regard for my feelings.





    I do however feel that many things have to come into consideration when you talk about leaving. Sometimes relationships could potentially get over the affair with hard work from both partners. In my case it was dead anyways and I had been wanting out for along time. So had he. We both checked out awhile ago.
    That would depend on so many factors. This is not a simple decision, but based on many factors.





    First, was the marriage healthy in other ways prior to this betrayal, or was this the ';final straw';?





    Is the wayward spouse willing to end all contact with the other person?





    Is the wayward spouse willing to do what is necessary to rebuild the marriage, such as counseling, being accountable and transparent?





    There is no simple, fix all answer. You really don't know what this is like until you face it. So many factors complicate this kind of decision, such as the history together, children and even love. Love doesn't suddenly just end.





    Some marriages do survive an affair. It is a complicated choice and can only be made by the betrayed spouse. No a decision to be made quickly, and when first discovered and under tremendous stress. It's a difficult road, but if both spouses commit and are willing to put intensive effort into rebuilding, it can be done. The first step is for the wayward spouse to end the affair and contact with the other person. You cannot rebuild with a third party still in the marriage.





    It doesn't matter if the other person is younger, older, skinnier or fatter. It is about the betrayal of trust. Either way, it hurts like hell.





    Source(s):


    ';Not Just Friends'; by S. Glass


    Source(s):








    http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/








    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTal鈥?/a>
    Sounds like you've been with your spouse for long time. If a man has an affair, most of the time that means that there is something his partner couldn't provide. Unfortunately men need a stupid silly reason to justify their cheating.


    Try to find out that reason. What made him cheat, lack of sex, uncomfortable at home, bored, jobless, a lot of arguments, etc. Ask him if anything is bothering him but don't tell him that you know he is cheating. It won't stop him but it might make things worse or make him find other ways to hide it.


    Good luck.
    How young? Young enough to be his daughter?? Ewww! But the bottom line is that regardless of age, an affair is an affair. All the wives who kid themeselves it's the other woman's fault and if not for her the marriage would work fine, are doing exactly that...kidding themselves. Once your man starts parking his shoes under another woman's bed it's time to say bye-bye...wish him all the best..and kick his sorry butt out the door!!
    i would probably think that an all knowing GOD WAS TOTALLY CRAZY for creating so many people and everyone cannot have sex with everyone and everyone can not have stupid affairs and i think its more like rape than an affair this is GOD awful... ah we all dont need the shame the blame or the fame... or the dame.. absurd. paul newman used to say about his wife ... why go out for hamburger when he can stay home and have steak.. smart man...
    I wouldn't care that she were younger, the fact that he cheated alone would be enough. I wouldn't divorce him, that would be to easy. Since I believe we don't love each other I wouldn't feel betrayed. But I would see it as an ok for me to do the same.
    I don't care if she is older I would demand the affair ends! I would determine if this could be fixed. If not I would divorce his cheating ***.
    I would divorce his *** immediately.





    I love my fiance more than anything in this world. But God forbid, if he ever cheat on me. Oh, there would be hell to pay.
    Does not matter the age, It is wrong wrong wrong, I would pack my bags, Take a few of his special valuables and leave! DIVORCE
    Divorce, as quickly and cleanly as possible. Have nothing further to do with him.
    I would divorce my Husband if I found out he was having an affair with anyone!
    I have a grave that has his name on it - if he ever cheats.
    Same thing if it was with a person of any age - pack my bags and walk!
    DIVORCE HIM
    Big D - and I don't mean Dallas
    wouldn't happen, I'm 24, he's 37.