I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?

If my wife finds porn on our computer, she gets very mad and threatens to divorce me...I love her and don't want a divorce, especially since we have a baby on the way. I look at porn to stimulate myself, but she calls it cheating. I think I have a higher sex drive than her, bc she never masturbates. She has asked me to start seeing a shrink (which I am doing) but how can I masturbate without porn?I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?
No. Women are usually jealous and don't like it because it translate into something that they aren't doing right. Which is most often the case, but their denial only makes it that much real. Sometimes you just want to get off, and not go through the who ritual of foreplay, getting her turned on or getting told she isn't in the mood etc.





That's where mistresses and porn become involved.I masturbate a few times a week. Masturbating with porn=cheating on spouse?
Porn can cause a dependency for sexual stimulation. Too much of it can cause you to only become aroused by more pornography. You can masturbate without porn by using your imagination. Think of the things you like to see in porn and imagine those situations.





Your wife might be insecure because she's pregnant and she might not see herself as sexy. ( I say might, because I'm not a professional therapist, and I've never met her).





Would she be willing to go to therapy with you? Looking at porn isn't cheating as far as I'm concerned, but I'm another guy. Since your wife has issues about it, which might be because of the way she was raised, I think joint counseling would help you as a couple.





Personally, I don't see any difference between a man looking at porn and a woman reading a sexually explicit romance novel. Men are visually oriented, so that's how we need to experience most of the things that satisfy our primal urges.
im a wife, and i don't really see it as cheating in fact i some time watch it with my husband and he tells me that he do, but at the same time its not effecting out love and sexual life, if it does then yes it is a problem but for me i find it better the cheating on me.


and sure you can masturbate, i find it Fine and not cheating...
You can't and your wife is a very interesting. If playing with your weiner is the same as having sex with another women in her eyes and you're still there, I suggest you start humping her sister(s) and/or friends and every female that will give you a little ride. Just as a side note..why do you leave traces of porn for her to find? Don't you know how to hide the evidence? Ya know, I get tired of men now days whining on the computer about their wives instead being real men and just closing the door and smacking some sense and respect right into her. If my lady even thought of questioning anything I did, she'd have broken ribs instantly.
Porn is an addiction that stimulates a chemical in your brain. It isn't good for you and can effect your lovelife and marriage. If that isn't enough to get you to stop then you have a problem. many men that are addicted to porn cheat on their wives because they are always aroused and the wife isn't always in the mood. Also, it can get to a point to where your wife isn't enough. There are men being counceled for porn addiction everywhere. It is a common problem.
';technically'; its not cheating, BUT if you need porn to masterbate that would mean you need to be looking at other woman to get off cant you just have an image of your wife in your head and masterbate? otherwise have sex with her?... its not bad but it does hurt her feelings because she thinks maybe shes not sexy enough for you to have to look at other woman in order to get off.
She needs to see a shrink too since she had such a strong reaction by threatening divorce. She's using threats to gain control...many women don't like porn because it decreases the value of their *#@%!%26amp;^, which they use to control men...both of you see shrink...if she refuses, then you know where most of the problem lies.
i do mastrubate once in a while for a change.i do not use porn, but i do so watching my wife undresss or having bathe and sometimes she doies mastrubate me and hence no problem
I don't think porn is cheating but if you NEED it then you do need counseling. This is a question for your shrink.
Just tell her to get her clothes off and show her what you really want!!!
You have a wife!


now you need to learn how to keep her and your family!
Technically it is not cheating since there is physically no other person involved in what you do. BUT : you are doing it behind your back, which makes it look like you are hiding something from her, eventhough I agree it is something very personal when you go off to masturbate.


Hiding it is almost like an admission that you feel guilty and know it's wrong to keep it from her. And she knows anyways if she ';finds'; it on the computer, it means she has been looking for it !!!


I am very torn over this issue myself. I can tell you that many women feel like they will never measure up to the women you get off to , that you will compare her to what you see on your computer , that your expectations of ';normal'; sex with her get screwed, that she is not enough for you and that you need more than her to get your satisfaction. And worst of all who do you think of when you are having sex with her, she'll wonder about that each time you close your eyes! She'll wonder if she is just a warm body to live out your fantasies about the women you see in your porn flicks. Not a good feeling , and it seriously can undermine your relationship, closeness and trust you should be having in your marriage , not to mention her self esteem will take a nosedive if it is a constant issue!


Not all women think that way, some are rather ok with their men watching porn and them getting off without their involvement. But for the rest of us , we want to be your fantasy and would go to great length to satisfy your cravings. If you look elsewhere for your thrills it hurts her feelings, promise you that is what your problem is !


Hope this helped you understand what your women may think, if she hasn't told you so yet herself .


Talk to her before you ruin what you have over porn!


Good luck ;)