What would you do if you saw your spouse in an Adult movie?

from their younger days doing very nasty stuff like multiple partners and taping it for all the world to see?What would you do if you saw your spouse in an Adult movie?
I'd send a copy to everyone she knows for Christmas. Including her divorce lawyer.What would you do if you saw your spouse in an Adult movie?
I was very honest with my husband about my past when we first started dating:


he knew I'd made some mistakes and that someday those mistakes may pop up at him from the internet,


he choose to stay with me anyway





I should hope that if he had any looming skeletons in his closet, he would have done me the respect of warning me early on.


However, my vows were for better or worse, and I suppose I could understand a person being too embarrassed to mention such an issue, so I would definitely have to stay.


It would be hard on his military career if anything like that ever came back to haunt us, but we would find a way to work through it together.





PS, how exactly would you find such a movie unless you were ';nasty'; enough to look at those ';nasty'; types of movies? If you veiw porn then you have very little room to talk, because you enjoy the product those actresses are making. And honey, even porn actresses have a right to grow up, find love, and do something better with their life. Just because we make a mistake doesn't mean we have to live in slum the rest of our lives.
Something I've never understood is why people who watch porn or strippers also harshly judge the entertainers they'd just enjoyed watching. If there were no willing audience, then such movies or performance acts wouldn't exist, now would they?





Where do you think ';those people'; come from? I'll tell you...EVERYDAY families, that's where! How do you know your MOTHER didn't make an adult movie, or your sister may have worked as an escort or dominatrix in the past or even the present? I actually find your attitude rather offensive...and here's why. I have a daughter who is a very nice and kind woman, a good mother and hard worker...but in the past, she was also a dancer and made ';adult'; films...No, I wasn't happy about it when I found out, in fact I was very ashamed and embarrassed...but despte my feelings I STILL didn't turn my back on her! Why? Because she is my daughter no matter what and I love her unconditionally...regardless of whatever she has done in her past! Also, it wasn't about me...it was her life choice and she has the right to make her life choices, just as I have the right to make MY life choices, just as you have a right to make YOUR life choices...with censure or condemnation from others!





I also know personally of many other ordinary and perfectly nice, well-adjusted people who are now good and loving spouses, parents, grandparents...people who are also churchgoers and community volunteers who now have regular jobs...but who also in their younger years chose to 'sow their wild oats' i.e. they sometimes did things that were perfectly legal but weren't always so nice or 'respectable'...maybe they entered a wet T-shirt contest (like I did on a dare when I was 28) or maybe they were music groupies, exotic dancers, lingerie models, phone actors, escorts, etc. You'd never know it to look at them, though...and they did those things for a number of valid and not-so-valid reasons.





At any rate, it's not your place to judge others...ESPECIALLY if you are using such services...doing that is such an inexcusable double standard, not to mention just plain rude!





Way I see it, if you really and truly love that person as much as you claim you do, then you won't condemn them, put them on a guilt trip or hold the past against them...unless you're just looking for an excuse to break off the relationship. Maybe this is really more about deflection.....perhaps have an unsavory ';past'; of your OWN that you desperately are trying to hide! Unless someone has lived in a plastic bubble all of their lives, I doubt you'll find ANYONE, male or female, who doesn't have some sort of a ';past'; of some kind, especially if you're both past the age of 30.





Also look at it this way...would you want a person who claims they love you holding anything from the past against you...especially if the thing happened before you even met them?
My husband used to work in the adult film industry. It is something he did years ago, well before he met me. He was honest with me in the beginning of the relationship, so I felt that his past is the past. I am completely ok with the knowledge. He is the most honest and sincere person I have ever met. Now, if you ask if I ever want to view said movies, the answer is no. I have seen the pictures, but i don't really want to see him in the act.
wow im sorry i dont even know how those ppl can mentally accept n do those things for $$ i will feel real nasty and disgusted about my self after been with that person thats something that should of come to light when ya started dating it was suppose to be ur choice if u wanted to be with an xxx lady . good luck . and ok now i have a question for u do u feel anything i mean down there when ur making love to her ?? is it true that a vagina adjust to any size bcuz i seen this videos before n they look pretty loose
I think I would ask if he was still getting royalties! If not, it might be time to make another one. lol





Come on now, people have pasts that have nothing to do with their current partners. Who are you to condemn someone for their past, a minor god or something?
WOW LIVING WITH A STAR,,,


ID BE AMUZED THEN WE WOULD TALK....


THEN GET SOME POINTERS...





PAST IS THE PAST ,,,I CANT CHANGE IT..SPOUSE WOULD KNOW THE RERCUATION IT WILL DO..SO WHY SLAP IT ACROSS THE FACE...ITS DONE ITS DONE..





LETS HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THE ISSUES THAT WERE GOING ON AT THAT MOMENT IN THEIR LIFE...





PUT YOUR SELF IN HIS OR HER SHOES WHY YOU DID..WHEN YOU DID,,THERE IS SO MANY WHAT IF AND COULD OF'S


THE PAST IS THE PAST...





YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH THIS PERSON BECAUSE WHY..?????
I would be mad that he didn't tell me up front. That'd be a bad surprise. I guess if I loved him, I would give him a chance to explain. Maybe he was young and stupid and made a mistake. But he should have told me about it.
what they did in the past is their business. nothing should be held against them for the actions they took before you. i myself, would watch the movie with her.
How can you hold something against someone before you knew them or they knew you ? It may raise some questions but I am not sure my feelings would change.
I would first get tested for HIV. Then bring it up and talk to him about it. If it was before there isn't much I could say.
You know those are real people, and they have feelings too.
id be very disgusted. i know i would need some time aloneto get over it.
I would divorce and use it as evidence in court to state my case...
To be honest, I might get a bit upset at first, but I would find it to be a huge turn on...
You take your mate for bad or good.The past is the past.
have you been talking to my husband lol
My response : '; Oh sh*t!! Someone found our tapes!';