My spouse and I have talked about the possibility of an open marriage, any ideas on how to start/read?

I brought it up. He was at first reluctant but has now sort of warmed up to the idea. I have already stepped out of the marriage-I wanted to find out if I could do it and I told him about it. We have been together 8 years and we are both early to mid 30's-still look good/attractive.My spouse and I have talked about the possibility of an open marriage, any ideas on how to start/read?
Yeah.... you should start by swinging..... find a club and go together.... then go from there. Set up rules and make sure that you are both okay with it and that you let each other know when you are ';going outside the marriage';. Oh, and get checked for STD's!!My spouse and I have talked about the possibility of an open marriage, any ideas on how to start/read?
if he's ok with it then go for it. it's my experience that that kind of thing strengthens a relationship if your both into it. If not, it may just kill what you have. Keep seeing how he feels and remeber not to push it to much.
A lot of couples and singles post ads on www.craigslist.com - just click on your city and then go to casual encounters in the personals section. It's free and you can include a pic if you want to.
Seems you've already started down that road.
There are many web sites out there for swingers. One is ';BayCouples.com';. You can read profiles from other couples as well as single men and women. You can also post a profile of your own telling others about you. The two of you need to be clear up front about what you want and do not want out of this. Most people on these sites are very respectful of others boundaries. But in order for others not to cross any lines, YOU have to decide what those lines are.
you got married to be with you rspouse why go outside of the relationship you might as well kept dating. What if one of you bring a disease home to the other. I feel that if you don't want to be committed then why be married?
Well if hes just warmin up to the idea.. find another couple that is equally atractive to both of you and that has am open relationship.. talk, hang out, and see if anyhting happens.. in my own opinion, if you want an open marrage, then you realy dont want to be married at all.. but as long as your not doing my man.. then go for it!!
I'm sorry,but I think it's sad that people think they can have it both ways. You made a COMMITMENT to be with your husband, and only your husband. If you can't handle it, you never should have gotten married.
try looking at this link:


www.thecottageinpa.com





It's a swinging club for couples. nice place.
ok this is strange..basically you want to have your cake and eat it too. if he is reluctant you will ruin your relatoinship so why don't you just leave the poor guy and let him find a woman that is happy just being his wife and not wanting to run around having sex with strangers? what is the point of being married then? good luck to your hubby.
An open relationship denotes a relationship (usually between two people) in which participants are free to take other partners; where the couple making this agreement are married, it is an open marriage. While 'open relationship' is sometimes used as a synonym to 'polyamory' or 'polyamorous relationship', these terms are generally differentiated with the ';open'; in 'open relationship' usually refers to the sexual aspect of a non-closed relationship, whereas polyamory refers to the extension of a relationship by allowing bonds to form (which may be sexual or otherwise) as additional long term relationships:





Some relationships place strict restrictions on partners (e.g. polyfidelity); such relationships are polyamorous, but not open.


Some relationships permit sex outside the primary relationship, but not love (cf swinging); such relationships are open, but not polyamorous.


Some polyamorists do not accept the dichotomies of ';in a relationship/not in a relationship'; and ';partners/not partners';; without these divisions, it is meaningless to class a relationship as 'open' and 'closed'.


Some polyamorists consider 'polyamory' to be their philosophical orientation 鈥?they believe themselves capable and desirous of multiple loves 鈥?whereas 'open relationship' is used as a logistical description: that is, it is how their polyamory is expressed or implemented. They would say of themselves, for instance, ';I am polyamorous; my primary partner and I have an open relationship (with the following ground rules)....';


However, there is enough overlap between the two concepts that 'open relationship' is sometimes used as a catch-all substitute when speaking to people who may not be familiar with 'polyamory'.





Several other forms of nonmonogamous relationship are listed at poly relationship.
watch Opera, she always talks about things like that
If you cant be comitted to each other why did you bother to marry in the first place. Your husband would be doing it only for you. Realise that if that is so your are torturing a man who is living just for you.
Why would you get married if you don't want commitment? try role playing..Dress up..Talk with different accents. Make your marriage fun. If you have already ';stepped out of the marriage'; then what you both need are a couple of good lawyers. When you are officially single again, then you may do what you want with as many people as you want.
You probably just started down the path to ruining your own marriage. Many, many people have tried the same thing, but most do not stay married. If you can take it back then do so, but the damage is probably already done even you haven't seen it yet.
Is nice to know that you are both attractive and good looking but you should only be with one another. Marriage is for two people not three or more.bringing another person in the relationship is going to do nothing but bring harm to the relationship
Don't do it. Marriage is a commitment between two people. There is no such thing as an open marriage. If you wanted to sleep around then you should not have gotten married.
WOW, that is a tough one! I honestly don't think I could stand the thought of my husband with another woman. I would constantly wonder what it was like, if he liked her better, and the dreaded what if he fell in love with her??





Don't jump into anything you will regret.
Do you have kids? That may be a soar spot depending on how he feels. Like anything you have to take small steps.
All I can say is beware. There are chatrooms and message boards online where you can find other couples or singles interested in being with marrieds. It is not a black and white issue though and while it may seem okay to both of you today, years from now you may feel very differently. The past will be brought up again and thrown in your face, I hope you are ready for it...
I would think about it and not make any hasty descions. I have a friend who is male and him and his wife had an open marriage, which is now sour. They have two children and she is pregnant with someone elses child, which isn't his. This is the second time this has happend. This is something that may sound good now and may be fun for a while but could cause serious issues within a marriage.
My hubby and I have had an open marriage for the past 7 years.





We have a don't ask don't tell policy.





Here are our rules...





Do not ';date'; anyone


Must be someone the other person does not know


Must never stay over


Do not make it obvious


Wear protection





After setting up your rules we have not had to talk about it since. I have done nothing and I don't know if he has or has not and I like it that way.





Hope this helps.
Make sure that's what you really want to do, because as soon as someone else gets his attention you may not be able to get him back. That's if you still want to be with him. Or just get out the marriage totally.
I don't understand how anyone who got married doesn't understand that marriage is to one person, and if you have a relationship with someone else other than your spouse it's wrong. If you want to be with other people you shouldn't have gotten married and should now get a divorce.
Seems like you are trying to justify your cheating on your husband. Best of luck to you both with your decision but a word of caution......... JEALOUSLY..... it can kill destroy a relationship... there are so many other areas to open marriage besides just having relationships with others
Go to this website www.escort.com find someone in your area and try it out... you will have to come out of pocket but atleast you know you will get laid... or you can try adultfriend finder or swingers.com... there are endless sex sites to hook up with people and couples... but the only thing i say to this is CONDOMS,CONDOMS, CONDOMS..... WHAT GOOD IS HAVING FUN IF IT CAN CAUSE YOU YOUR LIFE IN THE LONG RUN.