Thursday, July 29, 2010

Is it wrong to jump your spouse first thing in the morning because you just had a very vivid sex dream of ...?

you having sex with someone else you know and are turned on because of that?Is it wrong to jump your spouse first thing in the morning because you just had a very vivid sex dream of ...?
Absolutely not but dude, atleast let her brush her teeth and you as well. Woman can not have hot passion sex on dragon breath!Is it wrong to jump your spouse first thing in the morning because you just had a very vivid sex dream of ...?
no, I've done this to my husband many times


(and I don't lie to him about who it was in the dream)





He appreciates my honesty


as well as my willingness to initate fun anytime of the day








just a side note:


you can't control your dreams


and often times the dreams have nothing to do with what you think they do anyway


so your spouse has no reason to be mad at you, its not like cheating
That's really sexy to jump her right away, just don't tell her you were thinking of someone else unless you both have shared fantasies like that before...and I doubt you have since you ask. Tell her you got hard thinking of her and want her, and just enjoy it...everyone has dreams of others, just use it to have fun with her like you did.
no its not wrong. you should tell your wife about the dreams. if its the same woman in ur dreams, you should get a picture, and print it out to an 8 by 10 picture, and ask ur wife if she'd mind holding it in front of her face...maybe she'll even let you call her by dream womans name!



When my husband does this thing that you speak of than he had better make sure that his performance tops the very vivid sex dream I have been having with someone else or I will grab my nut crackers and let him know just how wrong that I think he is.
Absolutely not. My husband would be thrilled. You can't control your dreams but you can control the outcome. Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hee, hee...my husband is a 'morning man' . I don't ask questions, I just enjoy. It is a great way to start the day!
no its not wrong as long as during the actual sex you turn the focus to your spouse instead of keeping the dream person in your mind.
If she is willing, no it's not wrong. Just leave out the dream thing though, and enjoy the sex.
No its not, but keep that little detail to yourself. Tell her that you just had an awesome dream about her....
No...its wrong because you have morning breath...and probably aren't so clean.





YUCK
lol NO its NOT wrong!!! Just keep the I dreamed of so an so to yourself! your silly!!
she will think its wrong, so dont tell her. why would you want to tell her anyway????????
Hi





Lol don't be telling yr partner that bit, jus enjoy!! We all have dreams and fantasies of other people





Luv Magsxx
You are so crazy. YES.
wrong? um, no.
Lol just keep that part to yourself and enjoy
Not bad at all, just do it!
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  • If you are vegetarian and your spouse is not...?

    ...did you decide to raise your kids as vegetarian? How did you come to the decision? Are you both okay with it?If you are vegetarian and your spouse is not...?
    my bf is not a veg, but we've talked about htis many times... when he eats with me he mostly eats veg... he decided on his own to start eating more of the veggie ';meats'; (mostly for health reasons rather than ethics which is my reason) so we mostly eat our meals together as vegetarian. he also completely understands my reasonings for doing so and knows how strongly i feel about it... we've discussed raising children (religion is also another issue for us) and we feel we should raise them as openly and honestly as possible... as the mother who will be the primary caretaker for them i'm going to raise them mostly vegetarian. as they get older and curious i will let them know exactly what meat is and they can choose. i've also told my bf i feel better about meat in general in the house if it's from local organic farms... i don't think i'll ever be buying them a hamburger from mcdonalds. its really no different though than parents who feed their kids meat cuz they think it's better or as a religion because it's what they are... you've chosen this for you bc you feel it's the best lifestyle and therefore you pass that on to your children... as they get older educate them and let them experiment and make their choices...If you are vegetarian and your spouse is not...?
    I am a vegetarian, but my hubby is not. He is very supportive though and said I can cook whatever I want for him as long as it tastes good. So he eats veg at home and whatever he wants when he's out. As for our kiddos, they both went veg when I did. It was their decision and they are very happy they did. They are 13 and 15. Now that I am a vegetarian, if I were to have any more kids, I would definitely raise them veg. and my hubby woould be O.K. with that. I think it's important to be on the same page with your spouse when it comes to child care issues. I would recommend gathering as much info as you can so that you can quiet any fears your hubby may have about you or your kiids going veg.
    Firstly I would show your spouse all the facts, show him/her that it is healthier and that kids can get all the nutrients they need. I'm sure they wouldn't mind their child on a veggie diet after that BUT... If they don't maybe more facts to take away any concerns they might have. I'm not sure what else you can do.





    You could always raise them on a diet with little meat and when they are a little older let them make the decision them self.





    Either way when your children get older you should let the child make the decision for them self. You should never force your lifestyle of beliefs onto your children. It's not right, let them be them self.





    But I'm a 16yr old drop out so you probably don't think what I have to say is worth listening to. There you go, hope I could help you.
    You are your kids first teacher in life so have confidence in the choices you make for them. if you and your spouse agree on a vegetarian diet for your children then just make sure you know enough about the nutritional needs with the diet.


    When they are old enough to make decisions like diet etc. Then you will have directed them in a good and positive way that their choices and overall health will be solid and they will have you to thank for that!
    My friend is a vegetarian and her boyfriend is not. They are raising their son as a vegetarian because they feel it is in the best interest of the child. Her boyfriend knows that it is a healthier being a vegetarian so he wants the best for his baby. He isn't a vegetarian because he is to stubborn and loves his meat to much!.. In most cases i would imagine that the children would eat whatever the mother prepares for them. It is the mothers job to feed her children and prepare their meals. What you make is what they eat. Unless they are older children then perhaps you should let them choose for themselves.
    I'm in this situation. My spouse agrees that meat is not that healthy but she doesn't stop to eat it. I'd had liked to raise my son as a vegetarian but I had all my family against me. It is not easy. I just try to let him eat the less meat as possible. One day he will choose himself and I'm sure he will be a veggie. My answer is not to marry a non veggie. In my next life I'd do that way, even if nice and beautiful veggie girls are difficult to find. Good luck.
    I'm a recent convert but 'Himself' is and always will be a caveman type (he's a rugby player, he can't help it =) ). My kids always enjoyed fruits and veggies so they will lean towards my own dietary choices but they'll still have little bits of chicken and fish. I'll let them make up their own minds as they get older, I've never pushed any of my views on them and in my mind that makes for strong, independent individuals who make good choices.
    i'm a vegetarian and my husband is a meat eater....


    we have decided to raise our children vegetarian, cooking only organic vegetarian foods in our home.


    we currently only cook vegetarian foods in our home unless my husband feels the need to grill something outside, so it shouldn't be a hard transition. my husband eats meat at lunch at work, restaurants, etc. and we have been happy with that arrangement. we will allow our children to choose for themselves when they are old enough to understand the full implications of eating meat, but it will not be cooked in my home. i really do believe that raising vegetarian kids is the most healthy thing you can do for their diet. going organic is just another effort to give them the healthiest diet possible.


    we came to this conclusion because of health reasons. my husband is a medical student and even though he eats meat, he knows from his coursework that a vegetarian diet is generally healthier than an omnivorous one.


    i think when you make it a health issue it becomes obvious what choice to make....we want what is best for our children and we want to set a good example for them on healthy eating. remember, what you teach young children will stick with them for life. i would prefer to teach my kids that apples are snacks, not little debbie cakes.


    i will discuss the moral/ethical/religious reasons with them when they are old enough to understand without ruining their innocence, but health is a value that everyone should understand.


    i hope that helps =)
    i recently stopped eating most meat but i do eat seafood so i am not a vegetarian.





    i cook the meals and my husband doesn't care as long as he has good food so my baby will not eat meat except seafood because i just don't cook most meat.





    i do plan on talking to the pediatrician about it to make sure i give him all the nutrition he needs.
    well i am a vegitarin (spelling) myself.. and well we had asked them if they wanted to be or not.. so let just let up to them.. and it was eaiser for us so we wouldnt have to fight or the kids would have to not do wht they wanted to eat..
    Well, I'm vegetan, but I'm not married, but if I did have kids, I would let them choose for themselves, not govern what they can't eat.

    Can my employer legally refuse my spouse health insurance if he has coverage available if mine is better?

    They will cover my husband for the 90 days until he is eligible for coverage through his new employer. His plan is from out of state and does not have many doctors and dentists in network as my plan. Also, my plan offers a dental and vision with doctors we already use. Can they really deny him coverage?Can my employer legally refuse my spouse health insurance if he has coverage available if mine is better?
    Like some of the answerers have said, it depends on where you live. Your best bet is to contact your state insurance department (link below), talk with the HR department, and even the insurance company itself. Even if you do manage to get your spouse on your health plan, you will probably have to pay for “plus one” coverage, which is often more than double what you’re paying now.





    One factor that might be in play, again depending on where you live, is a rule that’s sometimes called “Coordination of Benefits,” which might make it okay for your husband to have insurance through his employer. For example, Ohio has a Coordination of Benefits rule that allows you to be covered by both plans. For you, your plan would be the primary plan and your spouse’s would be the secondary plan. The reverse would be true for your spouse. The insurance companies have to decide who pays for what. If you have children, the primary policy would be the one for whoever parent has the earliest birthday in that calendar year.





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    http://www.mostchoice.com/health-insuran…Can my employer legally refuse my spouse health insurance if he has coverage available if mine is better?
    From what I know your employer is legaly obligated to offer ';you'; whatever he or she may have through the company. I know they can't deny you. But there might be some kind of weird loop hole if your husband already has his own. Get in contact with a lawyer.
    I don't know if they can refuse him but they can make you pay for his coverage.
    Call the department of Insurance in your state. I suspect the laws vary from state to state considerably.
    Yes they can.





    Atleast it is common in the Reno, NV area for a spouse's employer to refuse a spouse if they have their own insurance availability.





    Don't know why; but, it happens.
    Speak with your state's department of insurance, as each state has different rules.





    However, generally speaking, your employer has the right to deny a spouse or domestic partner coverage if s/he is eligible for her/his employer's sponsored health plan.





    Traditionally, employers have not selected to do this. I understand that the pratice is becoming more prevalent as health insurance costs continue to rise. If employers are concerned about health insurance premiums, many offer to cover the spouse/domestic partner as well as her/his plan, but will charge what is commonly known as a Spousal Clause, in which benefits are offered, however you are required to pay the entire premium for your spouses coverage.





    Having said this, if your employer will not offer coverage to your spouse, I would consider finding an employer who will. The practice, in my humble opinion, is dispicable.
    Employers seem to have been allowed to get away with an increasing ammount loopholes with regard to insurance. I work for a sheriff's office and when I started they would not cover me until their open enrollment period began. They also have a policy that adds a surcharge if you place your spouse on your policy and your spouse is offered insurance through their employer. It is sick that everyone who works is not covered.
    They cannot refuse health insurance if you want him on your plan. Visit your HR office and talk first to the benefits manager, the the HR Manager and then if necessary the HR director.
    Yes, he is legally supposed to use his health coverage and you can use yours. However, if you folks have children, then the kids can go with the parent who has the better benefits. But as far as this goes....it's his insurance he has to use. However there is a loop hole, if he cancels his insurance at his job, then he can go under your coverage. however the waiting and probationary periods will vary with different carriers.
    That varies depending on what state you live in. Most states will let your spouse be added, but the employer can require you to pay 100% of the additional premium, IF his current plan also insures spouses.

    What is the best thing to do if you feel / suspect that your spouse (husband) is cheating or still flirting?

    what is the best advice of guys out there to women who felt cheated / betrayed in any form. What is the best thing to do if you feel / suspect that your spouse (husband) is cheating or still flirting?
    I don't think there is anything you can do unless you have proof of what you feel. Flirting is not such a serious thing. I know that it probably hurts you. You feel you are not getting the attention you deserve and he is giving this attention to someone else. Sit down with your husband and tell him your feelings. Ask him outright if he is cheating. He may admit it or deny it, but watch his body language and that will ive you an idea of the truth. For example if he looks you in the eye that is usually a signal of honesty. Further tell him not to be upset with you but you feel terrible because of these doubts he has placed in your marriage, and want to attempt to streighten these doubts ou. Hope that helps.What is the best thing to do if you feel / suspect that your spouse (husband) is cheating or still flirting?
    That question comes up a heap of times and the best answer is always questionable.





    Tolerance and virtue go to together. After everything I have been through about affairs there is no real solution to a problem that is like a disease that inflicts each of us including you. Nobody is immune from lust, or infatuation. Everybody will play at one time or another in your life when you are not fully honorable to your Lord thy God.





    If you want to go alone in this world without him to help guide you and keep you from lust afflictions then you will succumb to the disease of love affair that has already inflicted millions across the world.





    Now, if you think someone you love or your married to is cheating the best thing to do is take a good look at yourself first and then ask you what you would do if it was you in that spot.
    Do you just ';feel'; he cheated/flirted? If you have proof of him cheating, leave him. If you don't have anything more than this ';feeling'; then you are the one with trust issues and you need to look at your own actions and decide why you don't trust him. Most times, people who don't trust for any real reasons, cannot be trusted themselves.
    Don't do anything rash without proof. If you have proof then consider your options.
    Wring their neck and dump them.

    What is something special that your spouse does for you?

    What does your spouse do to make you feel special and what do you do in return? My husband is a really good cook and every weekend he gets up early and makes these amazing breakfasts for me. I make his lunch every day and I write him little notes - sometimes I hide them, like in his sock drawer, or in his pocket. How about you?What is something special that your spouse does for you?
    Kudos to you for doing things to keep your relationship fresh and alive! It is those small things that sometimes keep people feeling appreciated and loved...Keep up the good work!What is something special that your spouse does for you?
    very nice of your husband and why sometimes you hide his notes???realy why

    What questions would you ask your spouse if you ask anything?

    Imagine playing 20 questions with your wife/husband or long term partner. What type of questions would you ask?What questions would you ask your spouse if you ask anything?
    What are your expectation that you have for me as a wife/husband?


    If my body change due to having babies, will you still have that flame of desire for me, from the first day you saw me?


    How many children do you want?


    What are your dreams of success?


    Where would you like to live?


    House? Condo?


    Do you like to have pets?


    What sexual expectations do you expect from me, and will you tell me what you desire, and would you not feel mad or ashamed but open mind of my own sexual desires?


    Do you believe in God? Do you have a relationship with our Lord Jesus as your savior?


    Will we go to church every Sunday, and Wednesday night?


    Are you a work aholic?


    What are your favorite colors?


    What colors do you feel comfortable in a bedroom, living room, and the kitchens. Do you like plaids or florals?


    Do you like alot of wood?


    Do you like what nots for decorations for the walls?


    What kind of Christmas tree do you like?


    Real or artficial?


    Do you like to partipatice with alot of people during the holidays?


    Are you shy around people, and rather to be just us thing around the holidays?


    Do you like meats? Fruits? Vegetables? Bread?


    How do you like your food prepared?


    What are your favorite kind of foods?


    Beverage?


    Do you like magazines in the bathroom or not?


    What kind of toothbrush do your prefer? ANd Toothpaste?


    What kinds of sheets do you like for the bed?


    Textures, and Sensorys are very important.


    Do you like loud environment or quiet enviornment?


    Can you show me signs of your own langauage of needing own space?


    can we talk without alot of beating around the bush but be specific on the subject?


    Can we truly forgive and never let the subject come back in the future of momement when during a heated conservation of discussion?


    Well , does any of these help?What questions would you ask your spouse if you ask anything?
    # 1 if you knew this was the last day of your life how would you spend it with your familey or in church? # 2 if you were on a beach and you saw a person in the ocean swiming and you didnt know how to swim and there was no one around and this person was cramping up and screaming at you to help him what would you do? if you had a choice of saveing your girl friend life or your x- wife life wich one would you save ( rember your x- wife is the mother of your child) if you walk into a grocery store and went to a vegetable aile and you saw this lady there and she saw you and gave you eye contact then she pick up a cumber and put it in her mouth what would you do?if you were walking down a side walk and you saw one of your familey say your brother and you knew he was married with kids and he was with a other women holding hands and kissing would you go home and call his wife up and tell her and your brother wife was best of friends with your wife would you tell your wife?
    I cant come up with 20 but I would ask him what made him decide to marry me?
    1. Ever been in a threesome?


    2. Ever cheated on me?


    3. Have you done something we agreed we would not do?


    4. Is it good to you? If not, what can I do to make it better?


    5. Define love?


    6. Define trust?


    7. Define fidelity?


    8. Why do you think you love me?


    9. What can we do to keep the emotional bonds between us strong?


    10. Do you like the smell of my breath?

    What could you never forgive your spouse for?

    buying me a ducati 1098 streetfighter, I shall never ever forgive her for that.What could you never forgive your spouse for?
    There's nothing I wouldn't forgive her for. I might be angry with her, it might take me a little while to forgive her if it was something very serious like cheating on me. But I always would, eventually.





    Of course if she seriously and deliberately tried to kill me or one of our children then that would be an awfully hard thing to get over. I'm not sure I could ever live with her anymore after that, but I'd still forgive her.What could you never forgive your spouse for?
    Giving his heart or body to another woman. Physically cheating is horrible, but emotional infidelity is just as bad! Many men overlook that, and underestimate how many women 'enjoy the chase' of a married man. I guess it's for their ego. That's why My Husband and I decided early on that opposite sex ';friendships'; were just off limits unless it was another married couple that we hang out with TOGETHER! Accountability is the most important key to building a foundation of trust!
    I will never forgive him for not doing one darn thing for our 35th Anniversary after he said he would plan something. What I planned he cut down and later told me he didn't want to do it because he thought I didn't want to do it- what nut would think I didn't want to do it when I was the one to suggest it.





    A close second would be when he asked me if he could go to the beach alone on my birthday. Later I found out he had invited a girl from work to the beach! He really fucked up my 29 birthday!
    You have to forgive your spouse no matter what they did to you.





    If God forgives you for your sins, then you should forgive others too
    Cheating, physical, or sexual abuse. Cheating will get you left, the other two will get you killed.
    Being mentally or physically abusive. I'd be gone and no talking about it. End of story
    Cheating, weather it be emotional or otherwise. Not going for it no way, no how.
    physical and/or mental abuse, infidelity and drug/alcohol abuse.
    cheating and leaving the bed to lock himself in the computer room just to look at porn...(that happened to a friend of mine thank god she got rid of him)
    Any lies... from our first phone call we made a commitment of honesty. We were both also married to those who lied to us so it is important.
    she drank the kool aid and voted for george jr , not once but twice , plus lots of other F***ed up repugs
    i forgave everything he ever did. but i may divorce him, thats a different issue
    cheating, abuse, being worthless
    Using our relationship as a cover for them being gay.
    Abandonment.
    Selfishness.
    Cheating or any violence
    Cheating
    loving someone else.
    Cheating. Hitting me or our child.
    Cheating...it's a dealbreaker for me.
    cheating would be the worse
    Burning my damn steak. Man I hate that!
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