What are advise/statistics on remarrying your ex-spouse?

Been divorced over a year, we are both having second thoughts. Well I say that, she says she made a huge mistake.What are advise/statistics on remarrying your ex-spouse?
I think you have a good shot IF your ex can specifically define what her huge mistake was. And, I don't mean divorcing you. I mean, what did she do wrong in the marriage that led to the divorce? Since it takes two to tango, you must answer the same question. What did you do wrong that contributed to the failure of your marriage? If neither of you have learned your lessons about what you did poorly in your marriage, you are doomed to repeat the same mistakes. Rather than rely on statistics to decide whether or not to remarry, base your decision on the specifics of your situation. People who learn and grow from their mistakes tend to be far more successful in life than those who do not.What are advise/statistics on remarrying your ex-spouse?
There's a joke about re-marrying your ex that goes like this: Its like when you take out some milk from your fridge, discover its gone bad... and put it back in the fridge... and you think ';Well... maybe it'll be better tomorrow';.





All the things that she did that annoyed you the first time you were married, she will still do. Only now she might have added a bunch of other annoying things.





However, it all depends on both of you. If she left you, are you over that hurt? When you think of her, do you remember what it felt like when you got served for divorce? If you left her, are your reason's for leaving her no longer valid? Were they valid to begin with? Did you both take on new partners? Have you both been tested for STD's?





I would tell you that if you are going to make it work this time, you need to make sure that what didn't work the first time is resolved. Maybe counseling... maybe just long talks, or self help books. It depends on you and what you both do to make this work. Are you both committed to the idea of starting again?





I would tell you that taking things VERY slowly is a good idea. Have date nights... spend some time together, and some time apart. Get past the intial rush of ';love'; and see where you are a year from now in terms of your emotion. Ask her why she wants to get back after the break up.... and ask yourself the same question.





Good luck to you...... I sincerely hope that things work out for you.
go for it, then you can write a book called , to hell and back for the secound time
I would never remarry but if i loved him then i would just get engaged forever that way its easy to jump if needed!





Charlesj has hit the nail on the head!! lol!!
you gotta think about why you got divorced in the first place.
I've known two couples that did that. One worked (been remarried 8 years so far), one didn't (they lasted about 6 months). I will say that the one that didn't work, both of them have been with several other people since, so they just weren't the marrying type.


I would just caution that whatever came between you before needs to be resolved before trying again. It will be easier to leave the second time, than it was the first, if things haven't changed.