How do you combat an ex spouse talking bad about you to your preschoolers?

I am going thru a divorce. When my ex has visitation he constantly brainwashes the kids that mommy is bad, and you like daddy not mommy, and mommy is mean, etc. He also takes pictures of himself with the kids like reading books to them, when he never ever did that before. I never talk bad about him to the children, that is their dad. I am afraid the guardian ad litem is not going to see thru his ploys. What should I do?How do you combat an ex spouse talking bad about you to your preschoolers?
That is just sick.





Be sure to always tell the kids you love them! It's more important for them to hear, 'I love you,' than 'You love me.' And tell them that it is ok for them to love both Mommy and Daddy even though you aren't together anymore. After all, you might not like their friends as much as they do, either; and that's the same thing; it's ok to like different people.





And, any time it comes up in principle, tell them that it is not nice to say mean things about other people, even if you are mad at them. But, don't ever say stuff directly about Daddy, as he does. Kids that young will tell where they hear things; so, if asked, there's a good chance they would say that 'Daddy says Mommy is mean,' etc.





I can identify with your fears, but even more important than any current custody arrangement is the long-term well-being of your children. Hopefully, the guardian will know when kids have been fed lines, but no matter what, you have to do what will be least damaging to the kids, which is NOT try to manipulate them as he is. Good luck.How do you combat an ex spouse talking bad about you to your preschoolers?
sounds like your ex needs a course in S.M.I.L.E. start making it livable for everyone here in


Michigan it is a class offered for divorced or soon to be divorced parents who are going thru custody and visitation I believe it's mandatory here now.
tell him to stop talking bad about you and If he doesn't listen the do not let him see the kids
When it's time to go to court have your kids speak up and tell all the mean things he says, don't let him take your kids or make them feel bad about you. OR you could just explain too them that daddy is only saying those things causes he's hurt, or you could take the ghetto route and kick his a** or have your family do it.





Whatever you do don't lose your kids respect or love. Good luck
Well that is really flat out against the law and in contempt of court if you have any kind of separation agreement/order temporarily in place unti lthings are final. Standard wording is ';no disparaging remarks to the kids about the other parent'; If you don't, get one. Do not take your kids to court to rat on mommy or daddy. Courts do not like that. You can let the court know what's going on and how you know, then the court will decide if they want to speak to your children.





Seek to modify visitation to supervised visitation.





You could also try and file a civil suit claiming he is defaming your character and seek some damages. Outta wise him up a little.
You need to talk to the man. That's really the only sane route out. There's always hurt in a divorce. Meet in a neutral place, tell him the hurt he's causing yoour kids, and the long term negative impacts it could have, and make sure he knows this is unacceptable.





Beyond that, I truly don't know. You could fight for complete custody. You could get a court order, though I don't think the law really does much in these situations. You could speak to his parents.





Sorry, but reaching him on an adult level is the only way i see it happening constructively.