What do you say to a friend whose spouse asked her for a divorce?

She has been telling me about the woes of her marriage for quite a while. However their problems seem to be the average marriage squabble that many married couples go through.





She said his exact words were, ';I dont love you any more.';





How can one fall out of love after ten years of marriage? I dont get it...





I hugged her as she cried but I was at a loss for words....





The only thing I could say, was that I would be there for her....What do you say to a friend whose spouse asked her for a divorce?
people fall out of love everyday...there could be alot of reason why it happend only her husband knows why he himself feels this way. all you can do is be there for her...try and get her out of the house to do a girls night out to take her mind off all this drama. If you yourself are married i would not recommend talking about how wonderful your marriage might be only cause it will hurt her just cause she does not have that no more. good luck, u seem like a good friend i wish i had someone like you around when my marriage went to crap lolWhat do you say to a friend whose spouse asked her for a divorce?
There are many reasons why a man would tell his wife that after ten years. He could have another woman or he could be going through a age crisis. You did not say how old they were but sometimes marriage gets dull and routine and people think they are not in love any more. Sad thing is that they really are. She is the same person he fell in love with but the environment and things have become dull.


Men can say some pretty cruel things at times and not mean them at all. Since he has ask her for a divorce I would say there was another woman in the picture..


All you can do is try to help her through this. Try to take her out and do things so she is not alone. Take her somewhere that maybe other men might be. The feeling of other men looking or flirting with her will at least give her some confidence which she will really need right now since he is distroying it by leaving her.
and you have say the right thing
You did what a good friend needs to do .
listen to her... cheer her up with things she like to do.


have an all girls night and do some male bashing so she an release some anger (like on Waiting to Exhale) rent it too so you all can laugh about it.


be there for her... she's going to need you.


don't let her get depressed. even when she wants to just crawl up in a corner and be sad...still be right there for her...don't let her do anything stupid either like beat him up or his next girlfriend...


it's going to hurt and take her a while to be her chipper self.
I'm sure that was all that needed to be said. Sometimes we dont want to hear any feed back, we just need a shoulder to cry on and a friend to listen to us.
After a long marriage, one DOESN'T fall out of love....one falls IN love with someone else.


Happened to my ex, sounds like it happened to her husband, too.


Tell her she will someday be HAPPIER without that shitty man....I know I was!!!
i would just be there for her when she wanted to have a safe person to talk about her grief. the man did not just fall out of love, he is seeing someone else and probably has been for awhile behind her back. people will make up anything, to end a marriage when they have someone else. he fell out of love some time ago, and the other woman is giving him ultimatums.
Exactly what you've already said. Mostly what your friend will need now is for you to listen.





I would try to refrain from insulting the guy, just in case they get back together.
How do you fall out of love with someone after 10 years of marriage ? With the help of another woman that's how and you can bet that is what is going on with her husband. My husband said those words to me after 18 years of marriage and come to find out it was over another woman. Tell her to check out some of his female co-workers and she will find the reason why her husband fell out of love with her. You did all you can do for her just be there when she needs someone to talk to.
There is not much you can do, but it is helpful and you are great person just to be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes its hard to say anything when you have not been through it yourself. You should remember though that she will always be greatful to you for you support sometimes actions speak louder than words.
You said exactly the right thing. When I'm upset I just need to vent and don't want to listen to advice for 15 minutes on how to deal with a problem.
Leave!
you said the exact right thing... i know exactly how she feels. the best thing for her to do is realize that if he really wants to leave she should let him go. If she was talking to you about '; the woes of her marriage'; that is a problem in itself. she should have been trying to fix the problems. good luck to her and hope it works out.